I have been married 24 years next month and he is 14 years my senior.
Before i met him i lived with my parents and sister in a former ha house which my parents bought outright about 2 years before i met him.
He was going through divorce and had two kids when i met him. I met him at a older colleagues birthday bash.
I wish i hadnt have gone to that bash now looking back.
He has always had to have things his way eg when he bought the first house it was 6 miles away from my family and i hated it. It needed a kitchen extension and he waited 5 years before it got done then he decided he didnt like the avenue and area anymore ( to be honest i hated it) and we left after 13 years.
We moved to a similar but smaller house about two miles away from the first its a nicer area with better neighbours for that im very thankful.
When we bought the second house the solicitor who did the conveyancing added me to the deeds ( land registry) he said he had to because we were married. We wasnt married when he bought the first house.
He bought the first house for £51,000 with a deposit of £5,000 i gave him £2000 towards it this was in 1999. I was only early 20s then.
I have been very depressed and have gained a lot of weight.
My mum died 11 years ago and he didnt even try to comfort me.
He drinks at a pub every single night has done since being together.
His family look down their noses at me.
He makes me feel small i havent worked in years.
I hardly see my dad and sister. They dont like him so dont like calling round.
My late gran warned me not to continue a relationship with him.
Also at christmas fathers day etc im expected to go to his family meals out and his first wife goes at xmas.
He made the decision to wait 13 years after we met to ask me to have a child i said yes but we didnt go through. Its like the ball always has to be in his court.
He has said i might not get anything if i divorce him or if he dies.
I lost any attraction to him years ago.
Am I at fault here.