Would Mumsnet accept respectful contributions from men?

[Glenlyon]

Do you accept contributions from men? If you did my contribution would be respectful I every sense of the word

Depends on the topic.

Buying a house, decorating, gardening, cooking, books, films, TV, travel, etc, yes.

Pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, relationships with our partners, dating, no.

Yes, this.

There are lots of men on here. Don't behave like a moron, or opine on topics on which, by definition, you know nothing about. There are plenty of topics which have nothing to do with the sex of the poster -- reading, keeping chickens, house renovations etc.

As long as its balanced , and for the love of your feelings do not say anything like
Man here
As a man
All men think

It's much better to put your point across without stating your sex

We get ten men a day telling us that they’re a 6ft 4 hench Greek God, rich, shower their wives with gifts, do all the housework, work 14 hours a day, are kind, sensitive, and intelligent. Unfortunately being that perfect still doesn’t result in their wives offering them sex twice a day.

Is that the problem?

lol

Anyone can post contributions or opinions, but if those opinions differ from the opinions of other posters, then they will be challenged. As is right and proper in any discussion forum.

Yes, I'd personally like a ban on those endlessly self-pitying male posts which, once you cut through the endless verbiage about date nights and pulling their weight, turn out to be a heartfelt wail of WHY WON'T SHE GIVE ME SEX???

It depends. If you can shoehorn a: 'and another thing... our sex-life is non-existent' into a thread about gardening, then probs no.

Also, don't say that you're 'lonely' when what you actually mean is 'I don't get enough sex'.

Depends what your contribution is and whether you’re happy to accept that your contribution might be challenged as part of a discussion.

To which the inevitable answer is 'because she isn't obliged to have sex with you if she doesn't want to', but that's not the answer they are looking for.

@Glenlyon So what do you want to talk about Glen? Houseplants, childcare, holidays? Or let me guess, sex by any chance?

You don’t have to announce yourself. There’s no testing. Just post. You don’t need to be a parent either.

Recently a woman posted about a particular vaginal medical procedure she'd had done, by a man. She'd rather have had a woman doing it. A bloke wrote in to say that he'd had a 'finger up the bum' thing 'which is not a million miles away' done by a woman - and he hadn't minded at all! So if you don't post something stupid like that it'd be a start.

We already do.

Edited my comment because it’s not just a parenting website and I’m a massive twat.

just don’t talk about sex (it always comes off as slightly repulsive) and don’t tell women how to women or suggest we need a male point of view as if that isn’t thrust down our throats (excuse me) everywhere else.

I disagree. I think “man here” is useful. It’s interesting to know because the assumption is that the poster is a woman because most are. Plus the observation of a man can be interesting on some topics such as parenting and relationships. I’d prefer to know for those reasons

No. I wish men would stay off here to be honest. If I wanted to talk to men, I’d be on Reddit or something.
I’m on MN because it’s mainly women and I don’t understand the mentality of men who want to be on here, except maybe for actual parenting advice which it very rarely ever is.

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What is it?

If you have to make a post seeking validation or kudos for being ‘respectful’ then no, I don’t want it

I've been here the better part of 20 years, and in all that time I've probably only had about 4 people take an issue with my maleness.

So yes, Mumsnet (both the site and the users) are and have always been fine with respectful contributions from men.

We can't stop men being on here. If they're parents and are speaking about parenting then it's accepted more than if it's just a stray bloke trying to get the population of MN to tell him how he can get more sex. Which seems to be the majority of it.

I recognise your username. From what I’ve seen, your posts are relevant to whatever is being discussed and often add some balance. Sometimes it’s helpful to get a man’s perspective. I don’t include you in my earlier comment. If all men on here were like this, I wouldn’t have a problem with men being on here.