Would you give this bike to BF?

[Beamsss]

Late DH was a cyclist. TBH he was a bit all the gear and no idea, and had a collection of bikes that he rode maybe once a month in good weather 🤣

He died six years ago and the bikes sre still in my garage.

The man I've been seeing for 18 months is a good runner and swimmer, and has a friend who's a keen triathlete. Triathlete is keen for BF to have ago, and BF would like to at least do one, but hasn't been on a bike since he left school.

There's a bike in my garage that would probably be (better than) what he needs.

First would it be really weird for new BF to use dead DH's gear?

Second, I've said give rather than lend because it almost certainly needs some TLC, and I'm not going to organise or pay for that. I don't think I could ask him to buy it.

FWIW DH told me he spent £800, which means it was probably more!

Ultimately, it may as well be used, but...

It would be very generous of you.

Is it the right size for him?

1. It is up to you and your BF (separately) whether each of you would find it weird for him to use your dead DHs stuff.

If you personally think it is weird, don't offer it.
If you don't then offer if but make sure he doesn't feel obliged if he finds it weird.

(FWIW my 'new bloke' now has some of my lateDHs stuff, and both of us are comfortable with that).

1. I'd agree on gifting it, rather than offering to sell to him. Second hand stuff often doesn't have great value and especially if it needs work.

If you just wanted to move the stuff on then maybe try selling it - but it doesn't read like this is your main reason?

EDIT: They are meant to be points 1 & 2, but Mumsnet auto-formatting has struck, and won't let me correct.

Of course it's not weird - not to me anyway. What else are you going to do with it? Probably won't get much for an old bike if you try and sell it - or nothing at all.
He needs a bike and you have a bike - just suggest he tries it.
If it fits him he can take it to a bike shop for a service, maybe new tyres etc.

And no you definitely can't ask him to buy it. That would be really weird! Give it to him if he wants it.