Oh dear what's the solution here?

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Friend and I agreed on a weekend away. There was some tooing and froing about a date, we settled on two possibles, picked one then changed to the other. That was all agreed and we're going on, say 18th.

Friend has booked the hotel. She sent a message saying £X , 11th OK to book?. I didn't check the date because I knew we'd already agreed dates (and she's usually very organised, would know better than me) but it turns out she didn't change the date in her diary.

Both of us agree that it's been booked for the wrong date, there's no ambiguity regarding the date we settled on.

So she made a mistake, but she did give me an opportunity to check and I didn't.

I really can't go on the original date now, I will be out of the country with work.

I think I know what I'll do, but in case anyone has a better solution, WWYD?
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I would check if the dates can be changed with the hotel

Well you'll have to see if you can get any of your money back when it's cancelled.

Or see if they'll change it to another date that you can both make

I think I know what I'll do, but in case anyone has a better solution, WWYD?

It's obvious isn't it? Either you get a refund or re-book. If they don't allow that then you've lost your money. Lesson learned.

Yes, the money is spent, but maybe she can use it with someone else, and there's a decision to make regarding who pays.

Yes, OK I should have said the booking isn't flexible. This is about how we make it right between us.

Can you agree to pay half the cost of your booking, assuming she finds someone who can go with her? I don't think I would offer to pay all of my share as she also made the mistake and will be going anyway. I would feel a bit bad paying nothing towards it when I didn't check the details properly either once she asked me to confirm.

If she can't find someone to go and doesn't want to go alone, then you both lose equal money but can rebook for the 18th.

Have you tried moving it or are you just assuming because you've booked a non-flexible rate. I've twice managed to move hotel stays that supposedly weren't flexible by giving them a ring and pleading my case. Someone may take pity on you.

If you definitely can't move it, and she can't take someone else, I'd split the cost equally. She booked the wrong date, but you didn't bother sense checking the message she sent you, so you're both to blame.

Assuming you’ve actually spoken to the hotel on the phone and they’ve said no, pay your half unless she can sell it to someone else.

No it can't be moved, the hotel is fully booked for the weekend we need, so we'll have to book somewhere else.

So are they saying they won’t move it to any date? Or just they are full on the date you want?

The is only one weekend you both can do ? What about another month or next years? If not - yess you have to lose the money and withstand the costs equally

They're saying they won't move it anyway, but they especially can't that weekend, even if they wanted to. If we want to go this summer it is the only weeked we can both do.

I don't feel particualrly comfortable only offering to pay my half, she's still out of pocket, unless she can go with someone else.

If you can afford to, I think the decent thing for you to do would be pay the whole thing. She did ask if you're okay for 11th to which you agreed then after it was booked said you weren't. Although agree she also played her part in the f**k up

Then pay more if that feels right, but it was both your mistake so you don’t owe her it

Then pay the whole lot.

What's your problem?

Ask the hotel if they can move it to a date say in October and November when it is usually quick and go then. It ia peak time for hotel now so they may be happy to do so as the rooms at the time will probably be sold for less than what you have paid.

Did you reply to the text confirming she go ahead and book? If so I think you just have to pay your share unless she offers another alternative (as annoying as it is!).

She’s the one who made the mistake so why are you paying for it?!?!

You both messed up so you both pay half.