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An outsiders advice needed - How do you keep going when you feel like you can’t? Home/Job specific.

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SassyMauveReader · 14/06/2026 18:17

Hello,

I am really struggling at the moment and would really appreciate some outside advice, as I am feeling very in my head at the moment.

To try and keep it short, I recently brought my first house which should have been a happy time and milestone, however unfortunately we have inherited a neighbour issue/dispute, It is all very petty and pedantic but they are also quite nasty and have been verbally aggressive towards us when we’ve asked them to stop nail gunning outside all day on a Sunday for example, so am feeling very unsettled and a bit on edge at home,

I also started a new job back in early May, It wasn’t the plan to start a new job and move house at the same time but it’s just how life panned out, everything at once! I’m really struggling to settle into the new role, I’m in Sales but the role is actually much more Operational day to day, the business is unfortunately in quite a lot of decline sales wise and so there’s a lot of pressure, and I also have inherited a team who are making things very difficult/painful,

To summarise things, I’m really struggling with not enjoying being at home or work at the moment, I’ve become really depressed over the last couple of weeks, have no appetite and feel as though I am wasting away,

I’m worried about falling too far into the rabbit hole with a mortgage to pay for, family to support and the job market not being particularly fruitful in my industry, but I just don’t know how to pull or get myself out of this,

I know nothing is forever, jobs can change, people move etc, but I’m finding it really hard to see a way forward.

Would appreciate any pragmatic or practical thoughts as I’m really struggling in the upset of it all.

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WarmHare · 14/06/2026 19:26

Re: the house, it’s strange to “inherit” a neighbour dispute, was this disclosed during the purchase?, maybe they’re just pushing boundaries/limits to see how you respond, I’d just let them, they’ll bore of it eventually if you don’t retaliate, I wouldn’t escalate anything on your side.

Re: work, you have much more control over this than you think, start looking for a new role, are you not wanting to move industries? Lots of industries have overlapping skill sets, whilst your searching keep showing up to work but start to think of it as a “temporary” position or a “stepping stone”

Re: appetite, again you have control over this, get a meal reminder app, buy a new recipe book, trial some meal kit services, treat yourself to snacks & reward yourself with them when you get through the day.

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