Growing Old Together

[Missingducks]

We are both early 60s, together since 20. I realised this morning that we are growing old together. We had agreed to live together. I suspect we didn't consider it being for 40 or 50 or hopefully more years. It's a luxury not afforded to everyone. Is it luck, hard work, resilience, or just fate.

The first three.

What are you asking here? Are you happy?

DH and I have been together for 47 years.
It has never been hard work.

We share the same values, still love each other and have respect and consideration for each other. It isn't yet 7am and he has brought me 2 cups of tea in bed already 😄

The main challenges have been his health ones rather than bad behaviour.

I should start checking previous threads! This kind of think is always a bit disappointing.

Your post doesn’t sound very happy about your situation OP! You might need to say a bit more. I can think of any number of couples who are still together, grimly and stoically trudging along after 40+ years. 😏 Medals aren’t handed out for this.

I have a DH exactly the same. We both say often how lucky we are.

Could be laziness.

When I got married my God Mother told me that for a marriage to last the good times need to out weigh the bad, this really stuck with me, I don’t think anyone is so naive to think that marriages are easy, but accepting that there will be more than just the occasional “bad time” is difficult.

What a weird post.

Id say its all of those

I got together with my DH when I was 17, married at 18. Been married 36 years, we're in our 50s now. Definitely feel that we are growing old together and very grateful for it! We've done the hard yards, been through lots of ups and downs and difficulties, raised 5 children and now it's just us at home. We still have lots to talk about, make each other laugh, have fun together. I think it's a combination of luck, sticking with it when things are difficult and shared values!

I know two people who got together at university and stayed together for a very long time for exactly this reason. 🤣 They weren't in love but they just couldn't be bothered to separate. I've lost touch now so no idea what happened after a couple of decades.

Been married for 43 years and growing old together and my greatest wish is that we continue to grow old together.

I simply cannot imagine life without him, although he does drive me mad sometimes and I think he deserves a medal for putting up with me for all these years.😁

Sounds brilliant OP. You have someone who has known you all your life!

We've been together 30 years, DH 61/me 59.

It's never been hard work and I wouldn't say resilience comes into. We both respect eachother, are aware if something isn't quite right for the other and either talk/give them space and are both fairly easy going. Over the years are lives have moulded together more, DH used to like pub, I used to like coffee and cake - we do both a fair bit now. We've found we both love hill walking and now have a joint sport we're really into.

That sounds very similar to our relationship. We both enjoy different things and don't live in each other's pockets.

I always think that if a relationship is hard work it isn't a good relationship.

We don't always agree on things, but we share the same values.