I recently found out that my husband had cheated me on me, well I always had my suspicions but I didn’t want to believe it and plus there wasn’t any proof.
He hasn’t shown much remorse, it’s almost as if he is shifting the blame on me, he said that he didn’t feel loved or even liked by me, that’s why he did it.
I am a very affectionate person towards him and our three children, he said that he is sorry and did feel guilty afterwards and said it wouldn’t happen again.
I will not ever be taking him back, I know my worth as a woman, finding out about it has taken it’s toll on my mental health, but I am coping the best I can, and if I were to take him back, I would always be on edge thinking that he is still doing it, and I don’t feel as if I could go through having any form of intimacy with him.
Upon finding out, I told him he must leave, he said that’s fine as long as he can take the children with him because he doesn’t feel comfortable leaving them behind and he doesn’t trust me.
Eventually he did go, but said he would be back to see the children everyday, I told our eldest child that his dad will be going to live somewhere else, but he will still see him most days, he just said ok and seemed very unbothered, our two younger children are too young to understand.
He kept his word and did come and see the children everyday, he was waiting for me at our sons school this afternoon, which he doesn’t usually do, I found this quiet odd but I didn’t question it, it has got to the stage where I don’t even want him around me, as horrible as it sounds, I feel sick and irritate every time I am around him.
This evening he decided that he wasn’t going to leave, apparently he just wants his family back and will do whatever he can to make it right with me, he can never ever make it right. Now he is refusing to leave the house, I have told him that he needs to leave, because him being here is stressing me out, he has no consideration for me or my feelings, he said that he is sleeping in the spare room, so what is the problem, and if I don’t want him here then I can leave.
I can’t function right now, this is why I’ve took to this site to let it all out.
I can’t speak to my closest friends about what has happened, because I am embarrassed, it would be very embarrassing to tell them that my husband has slept with someone else, one person that I have proof of, but it is probably several more.
I do not know what I want to get out of this thread, but I do feel a little bit better now I’ve spoken about it.
As anyone here been through the same thing?
I know that this is going to be a tough journey for me, I am already finding it very difficult to cope alone with the children, but I will do it.