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How hated will we be?

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SecondH · 10/06/2026 15:08

DH and I are looking at buying a second home by the coast. I would love to hear from other second home owners and people who live in areas where there are lots of second home owners. How hated by the locals would we be? Do neighbours ignore you etc?

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FlyingCatGirl · 13/06/2026 07:16

The trouble with leaving a house empty for long periods is that you have to worry about things like break ins, vandalism, squatters, pipes breaking, pest infestations, the place getting damp and stale etc.
If you aren't monitoring the place and something goes wrong, that's going to annoy the neighbours on top of it being wasted for most of the year whilst it sits empty.

There's a flip side to coin on the argument about leaving homes for locals, in the north east a lot of arguments rumble on about places like Staithes and Robin Hoods Bay not having enough homes for younger locals but places like that are never going to see a drop in price enough for younger people to afford it.

There's a lot of impracticalities to living in some of these places such as not necessarily having schools, doctors surgeries, supermarkets nearby and probably having a miserable commute to urban areas where work
It's also not good to be raising kids somewhere where there is no other kids to play with. Also a lot of the demographic in these places is pensioners, we moved on to a cul de sac with a lot of pensioners on a few years back and our neighbour in his early 80's asked me if we had kids and he was glad when I said no, a family with 3 young boys had lived here previously and probably wasn't appreciated by the elderly around here.

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 13/06/2026 07:59

Neurodiversitydoctor · 12/06/2026 20:15

I am a doctor I would have loved to move to Cornwall there are (were) plenty of jobs down there. But I am a Londoner with a RP accent, I worried my DC would never be accepted. We moved to Kent instead where there are plenty of displaced Londoners.

For a doctor you don't have much common sense! Not every Cornish person has a Cornish accent. Not every Kent person has a Kent accent.

SecondH · 13/06/2026 08:11

NorthYorkshireTillIIdie · 11/06/2026 23:52

It is not rotting! You shared the link

Yes and you can see it needs maintenance inside and out. I'm sure you know what happens to houses that sit unheated for years on end.

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SecondH · 13/06/2026 08:16

thesealion · 11/06/2026 23:41

Not the point of the thread but your definition of “needs gutting” is very different to mine. I don’t like the decor but it’s perfectly liveable! When you said it needs a full renovation I was imagining wires hanging out the walls, holes in ceilings and and a floor that would splinter as soon as any weight was put on it.

Agreed, it is liveable, it just needs a lot of work. The kitchen would need ripping out and new flooring throughout. I'd have bifolds put in too.

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Thatcannotberight · 13/06/2026 08:17

Neurodiversitydoctor · 12/06/2026 20:15

I am a doctor I would have loved to move to Cornwall there are (were) plenty of jobs down there. But I am a Londoner with a RP accent, I worried my DC would never be accepted. We moved to Kent instead where there are plenty of displaced Londoners.

In the area of Cornwall that I live, there are lots of displaced Kentish people. They've been here since the 80s.
The demographic has gone very wrong. The local schools have very few pupils, compared to 30 years ago, and the Secondary school can no longer sustain a 6th form that it previously had to build a separate annex for.

SecondH · 13/06/2026 08:17

NorthYorkshireTillIIdie · 11/06/2026 23:43

They don't live there

They don't pay council tax

They don't send their children to the village school so it closes
They don't attend the local church and so the congregation dwindles and they no longer run sessions such as parent and toddler (in a village the church is about community not religion) They loose the Vicar
The Village shop closes as the Tesco and Ocado vans pull up at 7pm on a Friday (they spend no money in the village)
The Pubs close (2/4 in my village)
They think it is ok to be making noise in the garden at 1am on a Tuesday in June
They cycle past the remembrance service at the cenotaph laughing and joking (ok that one may be very personal)

They pay more council tax.

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TeaPot496 · 13/06/2026 12:56

Neurodiversitydoctor · 13/06/2026 05:56

Well maybe it was 20 odd years ago, domething I considered and decided against.

Even 20, 30, 40, 50 years ago.. It's not a new thing at all for there to be a mixture of people.

Thinking back to my school days in the 1980s, most people had mixed Cornish heritage or families from upcountry. No problem, completely normal.

The Cornish are broadly welcoming as long as you don't take the piss.

Corvidsarethebest · 13/06/2026 16:16

NorthYorkshireTillIIdie · 11/06/2026 23:43

They don't live there

They don't pay council tax

They don't send their children to the village school so it closes
They don't attend the local church and so the congregation dwindles and they no longer run sessions such as parent and toddler (in a village the church is about community not religion) They loose the Vicar
The Village shop closes as the Tesco and Ocado vans pull up at 7pm on a Friday (they spend no money in the village)
The Pubs close (2/4 in my village)
They think it is ok to be making noise in the garden at 1am on a Tuesday in June
They cycle past the remembrance service at the cenotaph laughing and joking (ok that one may be very personal)

Realistically- the churches are emptying out anyway, they are not full anywhere in the country! The school rolls were falling in many rural places before Airbnb, our local school closed. These are places with low wages, few jobs and rural poverty; they weren't thriving before second-home people came along in the way people are making out. So many people wanted to move away, the homes were sold on to the highest bidder! I love Devon and Cornwall but I'm not blind to what was happening in these communities twenty years ago.

People are blaming things that were already happening in society on incomers- starting to sound familiar.

Beavis8 · 13/06/2026 17:45

Troublein · 10/06/2026 16:29

Yes you will be hated a lot.

You will be killing the place you choose and when you do finally retire, there will not be kind or helpful neighbours because of what you have done.

It is their children, their friends who will have been unhoused for your dream, so if you have a fall nobody is going to care or help you.

There is a massive shortage of doctors and hospital beds in Cornwall all year round, and they are put under tremendous pressure every tourist season.
I hope you aren't expecting to get great medical care as an incomer who helped kill another village/town and added nothing to an area for everyone who really lives there.

I've seen so many people from upcountry move down to Cornwall, then endlessly bitch they don't get tourist treatment in areas they have impoverished by inflating prices.
If you want work done, you'll struggle to find anyone because you will have priced most of those people out of the area.

I have known nurses who have to sleep in cars and RVs illegally parked because of second home owners to do their job in Cornwall - that is nurses who you expect to treat you when you come in from your dream retirement home at an age when you are more likely to put high demand on medical services.

There are usually just under 50 ambulances to cover the entire county at peak times so hope you aren't going to rely on one of those as you could be waiting days.

I know what happens to old incomers when they get sick and start bed blocking locals, as there are only just about 1100 hospital beds in the whole county including mental health beds, acute care, the lot.
They are not loved.

Book yourself funeral plans before you move down, because your retirement plan is to die alone in an area where you have left a house empty for 6 years then turned up expecting locals to stand by you and be your community after you have harmed it.
You'll then get to enjoy the airB&B scum too, who will turn up and vomit all over your property while they have a screaming drunk fight in the street and you'll feel about them the way the locals feel about you

I know Cornish people who hate anyone from the next village over and are proud they've never been more than 30 miles from home in their life.
You'll be an emmet til the day you die and if your family live far enough away, they won't bother coming down to your funeral.
Cornish nursing homes are full of old wealthy incomers who get no visitors from one end of the year til the next unless someone is concerned they have been written out of the will.
Family stay in touch for the first bit when incomers move down, but then it's just too far away from their everyday lives and there are other places they want to go in the little time off they have while their kids don't really know their distant old relatives as they hardly ever see them, so they drift away after a few years.

You'll get people coming onto your thread telling you people will love you, it's all fine etc...

I've seen your type countless times over the past fifty years, first their friends who come to visit die off or get too sick to travel so they stop visiting, then their family get caught up in their own lives, then they find they are surrounded by strangers they have nothing in common with.

It's the same story 90% of the time unless it's people who have family already in the area who are moving back.

It won't be so bad when there are still two of you, but there will be nobody to share the strain with when the first gets sick, then after they die you will be alone in a place where nobody cares about you just when you get super needy.

Don't imagine you'll have friendly neighbours who pop in to make sure you are okay when you are alone.
People who can afford to work as carers have been long since priced out by people like you, so you'll struggle to get any home help if you need it.

They might not be rude to your face, but you will have zero goodwill when you really need it as you get older.
You are not of any benefit to the place you want to turn up when you are at your least productive and most expensive stage of your life to a community.

You are the reason a teacher has to live in a bedsit, the doctor can't treat the local guy because you took the appointment, the local primary school has to close because young families have been pushed out of the area by you.

But hey, I bet it's a pretty looking house in the pictures on a sunny day, so what could possibly go wrong?
Enjoy being old, alone and vulnerable with a great view though.

Calm the fuck down

KeepPumping · 13/06/2026 18:14

Clontash · 11/06/2026 17:46

Near the Bedruthan Steps! Such a lovely beach. I won’t be going back, but it is a great place.

The price is just silly, big big losses coming on these properties if rates go up.

TheGander · 13/06/2026 18:45

MsAmerica · 12/06/2026 21:13

Sorry, could you say that in plain English?
Are you saying that because of the cost of housing, poorer people would resent a rich newcomer buying a second home?
The OP is asking about local reaction, and in my experience, richer people don't buy in poorer areas.
In any case, the question seems silly because I imagine each case would be different. I could imagine questions about finance, or questions about use, but to try to generalize about unknown people in an unknown area seems absurd.

I thought it was plain enough English. People
move into scenic areas of the country, often from wealthier areas eg London and other large cities, and can afford to pay over the odds to secure a nice home , pricing out local families and people trying to get on the property ladder. In time prices escalate until they bear no relation to levels of local income, creating a property owning aristocracy and an excluded majority of local people doing ordinary jobs.

Walkingonairdays · 13/06/2026 22:15

The general opinions are yes you would be hated. This is absolutely dreadful. The day I would let strangers who have no more right to stay in Cornwall than I do regardless of generations of inhabitants there would be a blue moon in the sky. How sad this whole thread is regarding attitudes towards new residents when you have said you would live there full time when you retire. If Cornwall lost the holiday makers it would be a huge loss to the economy in the area. I say be careful what you wish for.

kerstina · 14/06/2026 09:06

Yes it does seem to bring out a judgmental feeling in people doesn’t it about who is worthy to live there the same as some people in cities don’t want too many asylum seekers. I would hope that if you were a kind pleasant person who made an effort to integrate and offer something to the community that you would be accepted. I can understand why people would be against people who were entitled , rude and one of life’s takers though.
For instance is the retired teacher who has spent years helping disadvantaged children any less right to retire in Cornwall than someone who’s parents moved down years ago but now the children are grown and have made no effort to find a job . We are all judging each other in some way it seems and we often don’t know the whole story .

CornishPorsche · 14/06/2026 09:39

Part of the problem is people come to Cornwall to retire though. We are not a retirement complex, but we seem to be developing a median age well in excess of anywhere else in the county.

An ageing and non-employed population in a county with only one A&E, a GP crisis, a dentist crisis, a housing crisis and plenty of other problems isn't helping at all.

Colleges have closed almost all their smaller departments so you can only get further education by travelling - but they've cut our bus services so hard that swathes of the county are cut off.

We are still regularly cut off when the train lines are closed each winter because of weather / damage to the railways. There is no motorway in Cornwall and West Cornwall is only accessible via a single lane A road (unless you know the B roads and back lanes). The traffic chaos remains astonishing in summer even with the work to the A30.

Tourism isn't the main business here, it's actually agriculture but because the bloody turkeys voted for Christmas, the post-Brexit situation for farming is dire. See Clarksons Farm for more information.

Wages are very low, many many jobs are seasonal (see both farming and tourism) so lots of people end up unemployed between October and March each year, yet housing costs are disproportionately high compared with incomes.

The council will probably be the next one to go bankrupt - they are currently selling off council owned land to try to make up some of their gaps yet we pay above average council tax.

We have long since paid higher water costs than anywhere else in the UK because South West Water charge us for cleaning up their messes involving beaches and waterways. We used to get £50/year from the government towards this excess cost but this government scrapped that in 2025.

The county doesn't need more retirees, it needs injections of money and investment into industry to encourage employment and wage increases, mass house building programmes (although good luck getting that past the NIMBYs), infrastructure improvements and basically anything at all to drive the local economy.

Dearover · 14/06/2026 09:44

This is someone who might move down in around 6 years time if her husband retires in his mid 50s. In the meantime she plans to do a big renovation project and then leave the property largely empty for several years.

Of course that's annoying. Personally I wouldn't hate them, but their actions would be very annoying. There will always be another property which come along in a few years time, but they wouldn't be offering anything except another empty home. My own village isn't pretty and I think every house is lived in year in, year out by teachers, lawyers, hairdressers, builders and retired folk like my parents. They use the local shop every day, almost have reserved seats in the doctor's surgery and use the garden centre & farm stores.

GwendolineFairfax8 · 14/06/2026 10:24

Dearover · 14/06/2026 09:44

This is someone who might move down in around 6 years time if her husband retires in his mid 50s. In the meantime she plans to do a big renovation project and then leave the property largely empty for several years.

Of course that's annoying. Personally I wouldn't hate them, but their actions would be very annoying. There will always be another property which come along in a few years time, but they wouldn't be offering anything except another empty home. My own village isn't pretty and I think every house is lived in year in, year out by teachers, lawyers, hairdressers, builders and retired folk like my parents. They use the local shop every day, almost have reserved seats in the doctor's surgery and use the garden centre & farm stores.

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I am a local. If you look at the OP’s link, you will see that the property she is interested in has been on the market for two years. What the OP is proposing is to buy it and renovate it - and use it (probably because she loves the area) until retirement - and, if she so chooses, to live here permanently. In the meantime, she will pay extra Council Tax and hopefully frequent some of our lovely restaurants and shops.

It is sad and empty at the moment - and no average young person on average wages here could afford a property costing over £1 million and needing work.

We always wanted a sea view but could never afford it. We were not angry or envious and continued to work and save hard. We have moved a few times and now have a sea glimpse 😊 (age 60 and 70). Maybe we will eventually get our sea view but most likely not.

We keep dreaming and do not resent anyone who has what we do not - as long as they have come by their money by legitimate means and not scammed anyone - like we were scammed. I feel sure the OP is not in that category!

TeaPot496 · 14/06/2026 10:28

Someone local in this thread knew the house and said its a rental home for service industry workers.

SecondH · 14/06/2026 11:05

TeaPot496 · 14/06/2026 10:28

Someone local in this thread knew the house and said its a rental home for service industry workers.

The said that is what it looked like. Those photos are 2 years old.

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KeepPumping · 14/06/2026 14:46

On the market for two years = Overpriced. Secretly the locals laugh at the people who overpay for these properties, it is just the media that whips up the "destroying communities!" "Not enough houses!" hysteria because they are complicit in brainwashing people to overpay (borrow) for shelter.

Corvidsarethebest · 14/06/2026 17:38

TeaPot496 · 14/06/2026 10:28

Someone local in this thread knew the house and said its a rental home for service industry workers.

The new Renters Rights Act may change how willing people are to let people casually rent because they can't evict them as easily- there was an example on this thread of someone coming to an arrangement with local teachers with it being vacant for them in the summer, that's something you would be unwise to do if you didn't want to end up with sitting tenants (although the act does allow you to give notice to people to sell, just over a longer period).

KeepPumping · 14/06/2026 17:54

Corvidsarethebest · 14/06/2026 17:38

The new Renters Rights Act may change how willing people are to let people casually rent because they can't evict them as easily- there was an example on this thread of someone coming to an arrangement with local teachers with it being vacant for them in the summer, that's something you would be unwise to do if you didn't want to end up with sitting tenants (although the act does allow you to give notice to people to sell, just over a longer period).

What are the rules on AirBnB"s if someone refuses to leave?

user4903456342 · 14/06/2026 18:16

KeepPumping · 13/06/2026 18:14

The price is just silly, big big losses coming on these properties if rates go up.

Do you go by the philosophy that if you say it enough times on enough threads over enough years about enough houses in enough places, it might just come true @Crashy?

Corvidsarethebest · 14/06/2026 18:55

KeepPumping · 14/06/2026 17:54

What are the rules on AirBnB"s if someone refuses to leave?

I think if it's for a short-term holiday let, it's not covered, but many AirBnb people let their homes out for longer, say in winter, and they will be covered by the new assured tenancy agreements. I don't know much more though.

Pleasering · 14/06/2026 19:11

Some really jealous, bitter responses on this thread

justasking111 · 14/06/2026 19:44

Corvidsarethebest · 14/06/2026 18:55

I think if it's for a short-term holiday let, it's not covered, but many AirBnb people let their homes out for longer, say in winter, and they will be covered by the new assured tenancy agreements. I don't know much more though.

OH that's new. Airbnb would only allow 28 day stays last year. I guess then you'd have to come to an agreement privately with the owner.

I've known people between houses who've managed to get winter letting if say a new build isn't completed, or they've builders in.