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I'm worried I might actually have an eating issue

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whyyyyyisitmonddayy · 08/06/2026 17:08

I'm 22, 5 foot 2, and I weigh about 120lbs -- which is certainly healthy. I'm a PhD student, and I work pt as a waitress. I exercise regularly. 120 sounds like a lot, I'm a size 6 (uk). I love food. I love cooking. I love eating.

Most days I eat a single serving chocolate bar for breakfast. or a cupcake. or a brownie. for lunch, ramen, and dinner, pasta. but I'm not exceeding 1200 kcal a day. 300 for breakfast, 300 for lunch, 600 for dinner. I don't count coffee (instant) and I don't count pickled things like gherkins or olives. veg and fruit I don't count but high kcal fruit I won't eat.

One day a week I let myself eat what I want -- this is capped during the day time but at night I let myself eat at a restaurant or whatever. This is why I'm not thinner.

holidays and vacations I eat whatever I like. I'm much happier then. I feel so much more relaxed.

My dad, who didn't know he was causing me harm, would, and still does, joke about my eating habits, saying I would get cellulite and so forth since I was a young child.

when I was 15 I realised it was easy to eat 2000 kcal a day. lost a lot of weight. when I was 18 I went to uni and realised 1800 kcal was easy too.

I started exercising more. started eating 1600 kcal a day at 19. I lost more weight. I went travelling for a month, really enjoyed myself... ate whatever I wanted.

I lived at uni between 18-21, with my partner. He believes strongly that there is something unhealthy and sick about the way I eat. it's not his job, but when we lived together, he was there to make sure I was eating more. I think he's the only person who gives a shit that I might be unwell.

then, last year, I moved in my best friend with us as rent was unaffordable. it lasted a week and she had a psychotic break and said some really evil things to me. things I can't unhear. I kicked her out and moved home, like I said, and now im eating 1200 a day. some nights, after work, I cave and eat maybe 200 more kcal.

My parents know I'm doing this. my dad knows a nurse and casually mentioned my extreme discipline. She seemed concerned but he brushed it off as a joke to me. he does gawk and look shocked when I weigh everything but thinks its impressive. My mum is much the same. My dad tells me he wishes my mother had my disciple with food.

Today, I stood up and felt really weak. I've eaten some fruit but I feel shaky. I just want to sleep.

At 22 this feels childish and vain, and it probably is. I need to fix this now, don't I? It feels out of control. I told myself once I got my phd place I would deserve to eat more but I havent gone through with it

OP posts:
Dermatologically · 08/06/2026 17:11

Yes, you do sound like you have an issue with eating. Please seek help sooner than later. The longer it does on for, the harder it will be for you to get better.

Firesidechatter · 08/06/2026 17:19

Yup, you’ve an issue, sounds miserable as well. Your dad also has issues, does he do the same to his body or is it just women he thinks should starve fhemselves.

AlphaApple · 08/06/2026 17:58

From what you have written it doesn’t sound like you are getting the nutrients you need for good health. Don’t confuse a healthy BMI with good health. You need protein, fats, carbohydrates and fibre from a variety of real foods such as fruits, vegetables, dairy, meat and fish. Chocolate bars, brownies and cupcakes may give you calories but not much else.

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