Ways to reward children’s effort through GCSEs, A levels and university

[NanSequitur]

I have 3 DC - one finishes uni, another doing Alevels, and youngest taking GCSES. I’d like to mark the occasion in some way and reward their (varied) efforts and commitment to revision.

Friends are giving a set amount when the results are published but I’d really like to reward their efforts. Restaurant rewards isn’t really something that they’d choose as a treat, so not a suitable alternative. Any thoughts welcome.

One of those boring people who thinks getting the grades/degree is the reward. I think a nice family holiday to celebrate their achievements and them moving onto their next life stage would be good if funds allow but money for grades is not for me.

My parents used to give us a treat or a gift the night before results day. Always with a card or letter that said something to the extent of whatever the results are tomorrow we dont care we are proud of you for effort and for who you are.

It always meant a lot!

Did you reward the older one/s for their gcse and a level effort? If not is would seem a bit unfair to reward the youngest. Perhaps a celebration dinner out, day trip, or holiday. Depending on budget and how much they still want to do things with you.

Honestly can’t remember, other than middle child got a £500 gift once GCSES were finished. I imagine eldest would have complained if they’d not received the same/similar though?

To be fair, all three get quite a lot (driving lessons at 17 and car each for 18th birthday) so I’m thinking something token but significant.

I agree that it would be unfair to treat the youngest if older ones missed out. Mine knew that the reward would be to the next level of their academic journey. Degree ceremony was a big family celebration.

Youngest made me promise a car if she got three a stars. I felt it was safe to say yes. She also picked out a bottle of champagne if she got her uni place. She got three A s one of them an a star so she got the champagne.

We were so happy I didn’t feel anything more needed doing.

Exciting family times for you.

I'm more in favour of celebrating success with a family meal out, a glass of fizz and a big hug. In terms of financial commitments it's more about encouraging them not to work/have a job during revision periods, no chores, subbing them at uni

A friend of mine got given cash per grade to motivate her for her GCSEs and, given that she was gifted but lazy and really crammed at the end, came out with more than a grand overall. I was privately appalled, even at 16. My folks took me out to dinner at TGI Fridays in Reading, where I was promptly massively ungrateful as I wistfully watched eveyone arriving for the festival I wasn’t going to (I went the next year)

I am going to give my Grandson some money as soon as he finishes his last GCSE’s exam. I am so proud of the way he has studied throughout the last 2 years.
I think it’s so wrong, to say for each high grade, it would be X amount! As long as they have tried their best and work hard you can’t ask for anything more.