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Work emails with no greeting / name just hi,

115 replies

redboxerclub · 07/06/2026 19:27

I the emailed from one senior manager that is sent to either one with people cc’d or a
few people and they start “Hi,”

I actually find this really disrespectful and should at least have a persons name in the greeting if you are initiating contact. I mean its not so bad if it’s a reply in a chain with lots of back and forth

But
”Hi,
Can you provide evidence for the following KPIs for the new audit in broomsticks. This is urgent as it up for review. Please anonymise the information.

I find it so rude I am inclined not to reply

is it just me? Am I over reacting. I’ve always found it rude just this one has come to the surface .

OP posts:
ThatFlyIsMySpiritAnimal · 07/06/2026 21:20

Given that you didn’t even manage a coherent first line in your post I don’t think you’re really in any position to criticise anyone.

JLou08 · 07/06/2026 21:29

Your days must be pretty quiet if you've time to get hung up on this.

TheWeekOnTheDalymountSeat · 07/06/2026 21:38

andweallsingalong · 07/06/2026 19:43

I agree it feels disrespectful.

My immediate boss who was a colleague for years before being promoted does it and it irks me that she can't find a fraction of a second to address me by name when it's a reply just to me.

I agree!

PoppingZits · 07/06/2026 21:50

RoniaCheetah · 07/06/2026 20:20

My director will pull people up on this if they do it. She really hates it. I've seen her reply to emails from one of my team correcting her on it. But I also saw her get an email from an external supplier which opened with 'hi' and she replied to the sender with an answer to the email and a 'by the way...' which told them it was rude to send emails without people's name in the greeting no was pretty surprised she'd raise it with an external who she had no prior relationship with!

Good for her! It is rude.

Shoola · 07/06/2026 21:52

At my work 'Hi' is the more formal greeting. People who know me well just get straight to the point.

SquirrelGG · 07/06/2026 21:56

You are overreacting. I agree with a pp, you have too much time on your hands.

PoppingZits · 07/06/2026 21:58

Blightfitting · 07/06/2026 20:28

Wow. I start my emails with just hi all the time. It had never even occurred to me that someone would be bothered about this. I don't care at all receiving just a hi. Prefer it to Hi Name, to be honest. Feel like it sounds friendlier, like they don't need to use my name cos we're mates already.

I find it jarring when emails start with just my name (no dear or hello or hi or anything. Just the name). Is that considered better or worse than hi but no name?! I mean, I don't find it jarring enough to actually get annoyed or think differently about the sender. But it just gives me whatever the professional equivalent of the ick is.

And at the end of emails... Mine always end with 'Thanks,
My Name'

I find 'kind regards' fine, and 'regards' alone as secretly signifying pure cold rage. There is a secret section of hell reserved for people who write 'BW' because they apparently give me their best wishes but can't even be arsed typing the bloody words. And 'Best' people can fuck off too. Best what?

Edited
Alison Brie What GIF

BW could be secret code for Bye Wanker.

canuckup · 07/06/2026 22:00

Yabu

And I'm a stickler for protocol

Idabelle · 07/06/2026 22:05

I'd much prefer an email starting with 'hi' to an email that starts with just my name. I had a manager who used to do that and it felt so hostile!

Blightfitting · 07/06/2026 22:19

PoppingZits · 07/06/2026 21:58

BW could be secret code for Bye Wanker.

Game changer. Now I know why I get so many emails with that ending!

PoppingZits · 07/06/2026 22:23

Blightfitting · 07/06/2026 22:19

Game changer. Now I know why I get so many emails with that ending!

😂

ElixirOfLife · 07/06/2026 22:29

EllatrixB · 07/06/2026 20:44

In case it's useful for anyone, in Teams setting for "Chats and Channels" you can change this so that Enter takes you to a new line rather than sends message.

Thanks @EllatrixB I’ll be looking at this tomorrow morning!

whatcanthematterbe81 · 07/06/2026 23:07

😂

Darlia96 · 07/06/2026 23:43

Normal way to send an email.
You're getting het up over nothing

canklesmctacotits · 08/06/2026 00:06

I don’t mind emails starting with “Hi” as much as I mind emails I can’t understand the first paragraph of…

Generally speaking, I assume that people value their time and don’t want to engage in unnecessary pleasantries at work. My emails are mostly:

Name,

On the question of whether the monkeys should be caged overnight or given freedom to roam within the enclosure:

Bullet point 1
Bullet point 2
Bullet point 3
Bullet point 4

Grateful for your thoughts,

Cankles.

I always number my paragraphs / thoughts / points in order to (1) ensure the recipient understands there are as many points as there are (2) ensure they understand my flow of logic (3) make it easier for the recipient to reply (4) cut the BS.

honeylulu · 08/06/2026 00:32

Hi is the greeting, surely!

I had no idea it is supposed to be rude not to say Hi Name.
The person knows I'm addressing them, via the name in their email.

GrinchPink · 08/06/2026 00:54
Trigger Reaction GIF by MOODMAN

start with Hi and sign off with thx 🤭

echt · 08/06/2026 01:06

I'm enjoying all the posters who've said that because the email has come to your address, the content must be for you.

PretzelChoc · 08/06/2026 01:20

I think the name is necessary so you know who the task/action is directed to. I'm cc'd on a lot of stuff so it helps. I don't find it rude though.

In a similar vein, a friend told us one drunken night that she hates text messages/WhatsApps that start similarly. Or worse, that don't have a greeting. Even from close friends.

Friendlygingercat · 08/06/2026 01:23

Last week I got an email to my business from a potential customer

$50?

Not the most polite or respectful way to request a discount. After all you are asking for a favour. I sent a polite counter offer and heard no more.

ZoeyBartlett · 08/06/2026 01:28

Sometimes I don’t even put hi if I’m emailing quickly…

ClayPotaLot · 08/06/2026 01:33

When sending directly to a few people, I would find someone listing all the names quite annoying, and just one to be rude to everyone else. "Hi," seems pretty perfect for that. If sending to one person and copying others so they are aware, then using a name seems sensible so everyone knows who it's directed at. Don't find it particularly rude just poor practice (and a bit thoughtless, I suppose) if context doesn't make it obvious.

itslikecakesbutitsnotcakes · 08/06/2026 02:09

You are definitely overreacting. I find the hollow pleasantries much more irritating. Get to the point quickly.
“Hi cakes, I hope you had a great weekend and the rain didn’t affect your plans too much!
I would be really grateful if you could find a
moment to send me the broomstick audit please.
Thanks so much in advance”

Is annoying versus

“Hi can you send me the broomstick audit please. Thanks.”

tigger1001 · 08/06/2026 08:11

Another saying yes yabu. Hi is a perfectly acceptable and not rude email opener.

not replying makes you unprofessional, childish and likely to get pulled up for it.

you can't police how others, especially when done in a completely normal way, email you.

TheFallenMadonna · 08/06/2026 08:15

I much, much prefer it to people hoping I am well.

My boss's emails:

Name

Do this, that and the other.

Cheers

Boss