How would you raise concerns about an elderly parent’s possible decline?

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We have noticed that one of our parents seems to be in a bit of a decline. Early 80’s.

For example, they ask the same question over and over again, as if it is the first time they’ve asked it. Also, not knowing where obvious things are. Finally, not really joining in the conversation, and then staring into space.

My first thoughts were depression or anxiety. I know when I’ve felt really down it has been difficult to join in and concentrate on something aside from how you feel. I’m not sure though.

I’m not sure a few people around this person would be very happy if we brought it up.

Sorry but it sounds like a worrying cognitive decline. There isn't much point in telling the person you think so but try to get LPA in place if it hasn't already happened, and find out facts that you will need if it gets worse. Say it's 'just in case' .

I had this with both my parents and now with MIL. The GP is coming to see her this week ( she is housebound) to do a basic dementia test and then we will go from there. With people that know them well it’s obviously unfortunately. You need to get the ball rolling to access the support they will need.