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Am I looking too much into this?

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louisejaneokx · 06/06/2026 18:17

I recently put a post on about My partner and I want a baby in the future but he says he’s not quite ready yet (I am) but is happy for me to be pregnant by next April when I’m 31. We always use condoms and he’s usually VERY strict about it. In fact, he wouldn’t even let his penis touch or be near my area without a condom on before, never mind actually go inside me.

The other night, while we were getting intimate, he asked if he could put it in and briefly did without a condom for a few seconds but didn’t move just cuddled, before putting one on. I didn’t question it at the time because I was so surprised. Then the next time we had sex, it was back to normal with a condom from the start.

It’s confused me because it’s completely out of character for him. Am I reading too much into it, or could it be a sign he’s becoming more comfortable with the baby idea? He’s told me he definitely wants children with me, just not this year, so I’d love to hear what others think.

i know it might not seem too deep to others but the fact he was so strict with condoms since we’ve been together and then asks that? It did really through me off. I haven’t asked him as I don’t want to spook him. Thanks

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IwouldifIcouldreachit · 06/06/2026 18:19

He wants sex without a condom. He does not want a baby, so reluctantly wears the condom.

Exhaustemonte · 06/06/2026 18:20

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LadyLooo · 06/06/2026 18:21

There is literally only one person in the world who can answer your question and you're unlikely to find him on Mumsnet...

If you two cannot talk about this situation, why on earth are you planning a baby?

LadyLooo · 06/06/2026 18:22

And lol at 'spook him'.

He's a grown man, not a Cocker Spaniel.

ginasevern · 06/06/2026 18:29

You're reading too much into it. He just fancied going bareback for once. All men do. I should continue to believe him when he says he doesn't want kids yet.

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