Bored, alone and around strangers

[Emowoman90]

I need chat, I'm currently sat at a BBQ of people I have no idea who they are, no 1 is talking to me because again they don't no me either, my partner has gone off at the other side of the garden to chat, Im not going to follow him because then I look like a lost clingy partner that's not my style.

My social bactery has gone so I'm now resorting to my phone because I'm bored, tired and alone, how's everyone else's day going? Better than mine I hope 😂

What I'd usually do in that situation is get really drunk, then chat to randoms and end up having a great night. Shame bedamned.
Long term that's not the best way of coping.
More sensibly go for a wander if it's a nice garden, give a pet some attention, go to the toilet, get a drink, then maybe casually bump into your dp and think seriously about leaving with or without him.

It's not a nice situation OP. I'm a widow so often on my own at events and it isn't easy to maintain conversation with strangers, even if you're quite a sociable sort. It's very draining actually. My best advice is to go and join your partner and try to ease in on the conversation in that group a little bit.

You are the one determined not to understand.

The OP chose to attend (no matter what the reason).

The OP knows herself and how she tends to react in these situations.

The OP's DH is perfectly entitled to nip across the garden for a chat, without being accused of 'abandonment'.

There are two people in that relationship and not everything can be all about the OP all of the time.

Although assuming the OP is in the UK, I'd go home on the basis of freezing my tits off.

Nowhere seems to be warm and dry today.

I DID miss the public conversation about autism yes. When was this?

AKA "I'm wrong on this so I'll back out".

What a nasty, ill informed and ignorant comment.

Not on mn… that’s a hideous crime and the only possible response is a dramatic LTB!!!! 🙄

Yeah be careful of using alcohol - I give off a good front but really struggle in social situations, and on one occasion hit the alcohol a bit too fast and hard to cover my nerves! Result being, I then spent the next day with horrific anxiety worrying about what I said and did 😄.

Did you have a plan with him @Emowoman90 was he aware he couldn’t leave you, and that you wouldn’t be comfortable talking to people?

It's been ongoing for a while now. Try opening your eyes and ears. Idiot.