Struggling with ageing parents

[Doubledutchbuss]

That’s it really. My mum is nearly 80 and the memory loss and the repetition are really starting to get to me. I’m struggling with the fact that I feel like I’ve lost my mum already - she’s not the mum I grew up with. Add that to parenting you kids and sometimes I feel I can’t cope.

any words of wisdom or places to go for support would be welcome. This is so hard. I knew losing parents would be hard but losing them slowly is heartbreaking

Come over here @Doubledutchbuss there are a lot of us in your position 💐
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/elderly_parents

Hi Op,

I have learned a lot from the Elderly Parents section here on MN. It’s full of posters with similar stories to real and very supportive.

Age UK are a good place to start ( Age Scotland where I am) . They may be able to point you towards local support groups for your feelings.

It’s shit when you realise that your lovely parent is a shell and it’s hard to see the mum you love anymore. 💐

Thank you! I’ve just followed the topic - I looked for aging and not elderly

Thank you - I’ve never spoken to anyone in real life about it so just saying you get it helps