Do you miss the freedom and excitement of being younger and the initial spark of meeting someone?

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Do you ever think about those times when you were younger and the freedom and excitement of being free and single?
I know it can’t last and all the excitement of initial meeting someone and chemistry doesn’t stay the same forever but sometimes I feel sad that’s all behind me despite being very happy in my life.
is that weird?

No. I mean, it’s not weird if anyone else does, and it was fun at the time, but the benefits of age and a happy marriage far outweigh a few butterflies because I’d met another dipshit.

I miss lots of things about being young and free, but this isn’t one of them for some reason. I like living with someone I love and trust and I know returns my feelings. I like feeling comfortable around him and being known as well as I know myself. It isn’t stale or boring to me. I don’t feel anything beyond a horrified shudder at the thought of going back into the shark tank full of awful, dodgy and despicable men, looking for one who might not hurt, bore or disappoint me. I think if DH died, I would just find a female friend to have a Victorian passionate friendship with 🤣 - no sex, I can’t be fagged.

Nope. I still get that same feeling of excitement when dh comes home, as lame as that sounds!!! I wouldn't want to be single again.

Same as @sprigatito i would just become an old maid and live with a female "companion" if dh died or left. Or a greyhound

No, I’m happily married and the thought of dating or kissing or whatever with anyone else makes me cringe

No. I used to a bit maybe, but I have absolutely no desire to date some random man ever again.

I do miss the freedoms a bit. Living on my own, with no responsibilities. Obviously wouldn't change what I've got, but I miss aspects of that.

I think that old feeling of anticipation before you kiss someone for the first time is definitely something I very occasionally muse over. Not at the expense of my life now but with an air of nostalgia.

Yeah but I mainly miss feeling attractive

I think it’s part of getting older and grieving for a part of your life you’ve moved on from. It was bloody exciting going out, meeting someone new and getting to know them etc and sometimes life in a mature relationship with children is steadier and doesn’t have those huge feelings day to day or novelty. I wouldn’t want to go back but I definitely enjoy thinking about it and as PP said how attractive I felt. It was fun!

Yep. I was only thinking about this the other day. I dont get that same 'rush' anymore, like i did when i was younger

I used to, when in my thirties and early forties. But not now, not at all. In fact you’ve just reminded me that I used to feel that way quite strongly. I can only think that it must have been my hormones. Nowadays I couldn’t imagine having to go through all that again and am quite content with dh and me being boring together.

God no. I adore dh, and couldn’t be bothered with anyone else, or imagine myself in a relationship if he died. I think that must be some weird brain trick because a lot of happily married women seem to feel quite passionately about the prospect of being celibate widows!

Christ no. I spent far too much of my twenties and thirties thinking about and obsessing over men who were, in retrospect, absolutely not worth it. The flutter of first infatuation is fun, but now I’ve been with my husband for 18 years I would never want to trade that.
If he pre deceased me, that would be me done.

No. The whole thing was exhausting

I'm older divorcee and single having had subsequent relationships. Five minute wonders so to speak. All of which I stepped away from. They just weren't what I wanted.
I've just wasted 3 years on one of them.

Yes, I absolutely miss it. Perimenopause has transformed my previously moribund libido and I'm now as horny as a teenage boy. I've been with my husband almost 30 years and I'd give my left arm for a one-night-stand with a hot stranger.

I'm single. Love the thrill of the chase and subsequent passion. I love the honeymoon period. But then I get bored and have to move on.

Not really, no. I can certainly look back and appreciate them for what they were. Not necessarily being single because that wasn’t really great. But the new fun early bits of a relationship, especially with Dh and I because we had a lovely fun life when we were dating. The travelling, the career building, the time with friends, staying up late, living abroad, only myself to worry about, my body being healthier! I can look back on it fondly and feel very lucky I had those years. But I never wish for a second to be back there. I like my nice settled comfortable life now.

I miss being desired and feeling lust for someone.
I'm not married, I won't be married, and I don't want a relationship, but I do miss those feelings.

Nope, I look back and think what an idiot I was and how much more I could have achieved if I wasn’t so easily infatuated with men.

No. It led to disappointment and hurt far too often.

No. Not even a tiny bit! I love my dh still and I wouldn’t bother chasing anyone else should we split up

Why is it limited to being young? Do you mean because you aren’t single anymore?
I’ve had the sparkiest time in my 40s than any other, due to confidence, looks, meeting men more. And now I’m in a relationship that constantly sparks. If you meet the true right person for you who you are very attracted to then it should always spark. My mum said she still got tummy flips when my dad used to walk through the door and they’d have a big smooch, he’d only been to the shops.. they were in their 70s.

No. I don't miss that at all. But I am bloody lucky in that I have a DH who I adore and who still excites me and he still lusts after me and that is all I need.

I can look back at those times when I would walk into a bar or club and turn heads and enjoyed attention from men and remember how much it gave me a buzz but I don't want that now. I am happy and content.

I miss lots of other things from the past though. I miss feeling more confident, and I miss knowing I have my life stretched out ahead of me and wondering where it would take me. Most of all I miss the days when I didn't overthink everything.

When I was young I just got on with enjoying my life. Getting up, going to work, seeing friends, having nights out, trips, holidays and I didn't tend to overthink or procrastinate or get anxiety over the kind of things I do now. Now THAT I do miss.