Practical ways to cope when caring, parenting and working feel overwhelming

[Onebarbattery]

I feel as if I'm masquerading as an adult.

I’m currently caring for two elderly parents, attempting to single-parent Dd13 with ASN, and working 4 days a week (dropped a day as i really couldn't cope, but now worry about money as well). That’s on top of the ginormous heap of daily life admin that never seems to stop and all the perimenopausal symptoms that hrt just isnt really helping.

I feel I am stretched so thin I’m practically transparent and yet somehow tomorrow keeps happening anyway. Please, please, please give me your most practical advice on how to survive when you are completely overstretched. I'm just not sure i can do it any more.

For those of you pushed to your limit handling high-needs kids, aging parents, and employment without completely flatlining or rocking in a corner, how do you actually cope? What are your secret survival hacks? What is keeping you sane? (And please don't say yoga or a warm bath, unless that bath is filled with industrial-strength espresso and a side fix of chocolate.).

Changed user name as circs seem to be outing.

Not sure I can think of practical solutions but sending solidarity.
Similar position although DS14 not high needs and work part time, still struggling.

Your parents need careers and not to be relying on you.

Presumably they have physical carers? It’s carrying the mental load for so many people that’s stressful. Sorting carers is a job in itself.

They have had physical carers in past on discharge from hospital, but don't want anyone longer term. Ive said I simply can't do it all anymore. But yes, finding anyone to help out is so hard. None of local companies have availability.

It's not day to day care as they can prep meals etc, it's the cleaning, laundry, shopping, picking up prescriptions, ensuring they have all the right meds and don't run out, sorting out and ferrying to and from gp and hospital appointments. And worrying about them falling again.

I’d look for a cleaner who will do laundry as well first, take that off your shoulders.
Shopping- I make my mum give me a list and I add it to my own Asda order, but it is a weekly job to take it round and unpack.

Are you an only child? I am..

Could you arrange a weekly food delivery of the basics for them?