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Friendly advice please

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louisejaneokx · 02/06/2026 21:10

Friendly advice please

My partner wants to have a baby 100% but he’s just not ready at the moment. I am ready. We’ve spoken briefly about it but he just says he’s unsure regarding the time frame. I already have 2 children with my ex and he has no children, so maybe he’s scared?

We’re an amazing family unit, everything is great. And I respect his choice right now even though I’d try now. But I can’t help but feel sad when I get my period. We wear condoms so I know I’m not going to be pregnant but it’s still a sad feeling.

I’m 31 next April and ideally I wouldn’t want to be pregnant again any later, my own personal choices etc. He agreed and said he’s happy for me to be pregnant by 31 (if getting pregnant isn’t a struggle) but he says this year is too soon for him.

I don’t want to keep bringing it up, but when would you bring up the “trying” convo?

My sister also messaged me asking if I wanted her newborn clothes for the future and I asked my partner and he said “Yes, I’d say take them.”

So obviously he’s happy to keep baby things from my sister for the future etc.

I am not going to keep mentioning but I’m wanting advice on when would I bring it up again in the near future? As the convo before was very brief as he was at work LOL. (This convo was a month ago) I got caught first time with my current children but I was alot younger then!! So I’m also worried if it didn’t work like that this time. That’s my concern too.

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TheOccupier · 02/06/2026 21:26

Do you have any plans to get married? I'd do that first. You've only just turned 30 and I think that's quite young for a first baby, let alone a third one!

vincettenoir · 02/06/2026 22:25

It sounds like you have already agreed to TTC next year. Or am I missing something?

Quitelikeit · 02/06/2026 22:27

How long have you been together?

And like a pp mentioned he has already given you a timeline which seems quite reasonable to me

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 02/06/2026 23:12

How old is he? How long have you been together? x

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