What was the most first-time mum thing you did?

[ChefsKisser]

On the back of another thread what’s the most ‘first time mum’ thing you ever did with your child?

we were at a relative of my husbands for a family bbq and relative had bought their lovely newborn along. I’d held her plenty through the few hours but later I was upstairs doing something. When I came down everyone was a bit tense and baby was fractious- his relatives had wanted to leave but wanted to ‘make sure I got to say bye to the baby’ before I left. Of course I did but internally I thought bloody hell you really didn’t need to stay for that…!! and it made me remember all the mental things I did with my first.

I know it’s been done before but any good ones? Light hearted- we’ve all been OTT FTPs and this isn’t a criticism!

i noticed he had a tiny spot of blood in his mouth when I was giving him his bottle and I immediately ran round to the doctors with him (it was about 30 second walk from the house).

After the hv told me her role included making sure mummies spoke to their babies enough for them to develop speech, I read ds the Iliad and the Odyssey.

My dp warmed baby wipes. Every time. Always. Until they were potty trained.

Whilst I was pregnant, I wouldn’t allow any tv or film on with what I called “sounds of peril” - so any screaming, angry shouting, violence, just anything scary sounding. I didn’t want my unborn baby to hear it and think they were going to be born somewhere scary.

I’d insist that my husband mute the telly whenever such sounds came on. I also insisted that any explicit or sex scenes that came on the telly would be muted too, as it just seemed wrong to have the baby hearing it in the womb 😅

Woke my baby up religiously every 2 hours for feeds 😖

When my son was born we lived in an old Victorian house with a somewhat steep staircase to the top floor where our bedroom was. My husband and I seriously discussed making some kind of a basket on a rope to lower the baby in down the stairs to the waiting parent below. Of course once home from the hosp we came to our senses and just carried him down!

I also seriously discussed getting the Financial Times on daily delivery because I was going to have so much time to read, sitting around while the baby slept. Madness! I do like a newspaper but I still laugh at my complete naivety!

this is brilliant :) tempted to do this and im on my second!

DC1 I went to the GP before she was even 2 days old (so not even registered as born let alone with the GP!) because I thought she was struggling to breathe. To their credit the GP came out within 30 seconds for a quick check (obviously satisfied my child was fine) and still booked us in for the next hour, for the GP to tell me that newborns just breathe really bloody freaky!
DC2 I watched a lot of Netflix on mat leave but stopped watching things like silent witness or Below Deck because I was worried about what he would remember! In my defence he does remember everything! But I didn't know that when he was 6 months old.
DC2 I had post partum anxiety so I did some really over the top things, more than with DC1.

But how about when you had sex while pregnant, wouldn’t the baby hear that?! 😁

I spent days making homemade finger foods (which they barely touched), wouldn’t let them eat a sliver of cake or chocolate, nearly turned down an excellent nursery because they gave them brioche for breakfast once a fortnight. Recited French and Spanish poetry, sang songs in German (I don’t even speak German), took them in every room I was in whilst cleaning (and nipping to the loo) despite not living in a mansion.

But, I also watched horror films on a loop whilst I was trying to breastfeed, didn’t think twice about having a glass of wine whilst feeding, and did the cardinal sin of leaving them on a king sized bed whilst I had a shower - yes, they did manage to wriggle themselves off and then subsequently took them to hospital despite them falling on to a very soft rug!!

DC1 - first was a summer baby, winter rolled round and as soon as the cold weather came out so did my thermometer. I checked his temp every 4 hours for months because I was convinced he would get hyperthermia. I have 3 DC now and I'm much more relaxed. 😅

We only used warm water and cotton wool for first six weeks, not any wipes unless our and couldn’t get hold of warm water.
Until my first was 18 months, wouldn’t ever use my phone for leisure if they were in the room.

When they got up for the day at 3:30am, gave up trying to get them to sleep and got up for the day at 3:30am as well! (This was a few times a week for two months!)

@DurinsBane not if you’re extremely quiet!! My sex drive absolutely tanks during pregnancy and postpartum, I genuinely am not sure we even had sex during my second pregnancy because I just couldn’t bear the thought of it!

Haha! I was planning on writing a couple of research papers as thought I would have a lot of spare time when they were sleeping!!

Baked a no sugar cake for her 1st bday as I couldn’t possibly give her sugar at her very young age. It was disgusting and not eaten by anyone. DC 2 was weaned on haribo (not really but I was far more relaxed!)

Emailed a soft play indignantly to tell them their hygiene practices weren’t good enough as 3 of our babies who visited all came down with a vomity bug (the first of many I went on to deal with!) Nobody replied 😂

Oh I did this too 🤣

I was camped in a&e crying 😫😫😫

They told me to get some sleep

When pregnant read somewhere that wet wipes should be avoided for newborns.

So for first couple of months would, nightly, carefully carry a bowl of water of upstairs for night changes to be used with cotton wool pads.

It was around a year later when it occurred to us that we have taps upstairs. Also that water wipes would not in fact scorch the skin of a newborn bottom.

Leaving the baby in the pram in a shop and getting a few streets away before thinking "I'm missing something... eeek!" thankfully the baby was still there and asleep!

Yep me too.

Made meticulous notes of her wet/dirty nappies and timings of them.
also timings of feeding and length.
took her to A&E when she cried LOTS a few hours after her vaccinations.
my 2nd hasn’t even had a doctors appointment for anything!

Oh God, I just recently rediscovered the notebook that I kept about this. Yes definitely some sort of deranged manifestation of sleep deprivation on my part, too!

For me - creating a photo album of my newborn DD and sending it to various family members. Seems normal right? I looked back at it recently and it’s just dozens of photos of her asleep with her scrunched little red face 😅 I was so besotted with her

I believed that I would spend my maternity leave helping DM sell the remaining stock from my late DF antiques business (DM tried to keep the business going after he died but it was too onerous for her). I actually spent the weeks before DS was born virtually inhaling mint cornettos and watching daytime TV.