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Do you ring your child at camp?

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LittleGreenShoots · 26/05/2026 22:46

My son (UK) is 8 years old and on his third overnight camp. He absolutely loves them and doesn't get homesick at all. His first camp was for three days, and the last one and this one have been week long camps. He goes alone without knowing anyone and is often the youngest in his group. He would go away for longer if he could!

It seems so much for his age and yet I know he seems to flourish with them overall. He had some mild bullying from some 10/11 year old kids in his group in his last camp which he handled so maturely and didn't put him off going at all. But he never mentioned it to us until he got home and I hate the thought of him handling it alone. I am insanely proud of him for how he hasn't let it shake his confidence, even if it has shaken mine!

Outwardly I am really supportive and encouraging of him doing more camps and I wouldn't be anything else. He has another week long camp booked for this summer. But I do feel some gnawing worry everytime he is away, and I gave into that today and rang the camp asking to speak with him before he went to bed. His camp started on Saturday. The heatwave temperatures made me want to check on him more than usual as they are outside doing activities all day. As expected he said he is fine and humoured my call and says he is happy/ has made friends/ avoided sunburn. I'll try and not ring again before he comes home at the weekend.

I guess I was just curious if others ring their kids at camp or feel similarly conflicted about them going away for so long at this age? I hope I didn't embarrass him with the check in call- I know it was mainly for my comfort rather than his. My husband is of the opinion we should just leave him be and he'll call us if he needs us.

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WonderingWanda · 26/05/2026 22:49

Who is he camping with?

Swissmeringue · 26/05/2026 22:51

I guess it depends on the circumstances, DD is 7 and she's only been on brownie camp for 2 nights which she loved. But the brownie leader is a good friend of mine, her daughter is one of DD's best friends so I know she has a trusted adult there. What camps are these? Scouts? Hobby related?

JustAnUdea · 26/05/2026 22:51

Im surprised they are allowed phones.

Its considered a safeguarding risk.

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LittleGreenShoots · 26/05/2026 22:52

WonderingWanda · 26/05/2026 22:49

Who is he camping with?

This one is PGL (so maybe camp is the wrong word- they are in simple dormitory style accommodation). The one over the summer with a different provider will be in tents.

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FourSevenThree · 26/05/2026 22:54

JustAnUdea · 26/05/2026 22:51

Im surprised they are allowed phones.

Its considered a safeguarding risk.

Doesn't sound they are - the OP rung the camp and asked to talk with the child.

LittleGreenShoots · 26/05/2026 22:54

Swissmeringue · 26/05/2026 22:51

I guess it depends on the circumstances, DD is 7 and she's only been on brownie camp for 2 nights which she loved. But the brownie leader is a good friend of mine, her daughter is one of DD's best friends so I know she has a trusted adult there. What camps are these? Scouts? Hobby related?

These are activity based outdoor camps found online or through recommendations. He is currently away with PGL.

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JustGiveMeReason · 26/05/2026 22:55

No, of course not.

Hearing a voice from home is likely to trigger homesickness when they are fine without.

LittleGreenShoots · 26/05/2026 22:56

JustAnUdea · 26/05/2026 22:51

Im surprised they are allowed phones.

Its considered a safeguarding risk.

I rang the camp reception and they rang back with him after the evening activity was done. He is allowed to have a mobile with him which is kept with the reception but we are nowhere near getting him one yet so we don't check one in.

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JustAnUdea · 26/05/2026 22:58

LittleGreenShoots · 26/05/2026 22:56

I rang the camp reception and they rang back with him after the evening activity was done. He is allowed to have a mobile with him which is kept with the reception but we are nowhere near getting him one yet so we don't check one in.

I misread your post... sorry.

Sounds lije they are set uo to allow phone calls if parents want.

FourSevenThree · 26/05/2026 22:58

If you trust the camp that they would contact you in case of any issues, calling yourself is not useful.

You can't help with dealing with everyday situation at the camp anyway, you did your work at home, raising your DS to handle stuff.

If it is a new camp organiser, calling after a couple of days once, just to make sure all is well, isn't unreasonable.

OxRug · 26/05/2026 22:59

I haven’t heard of anyone sending their kids on a camp where they don’t know anyone but I don’t check in on scout camp

LittleGreenShoots · 26/05/2026 23:04

JustGiveMeReason · 26/05/2026 22:55

No, of course not.

Hearing a voice from home is likely to trigger homesickness when they are fine without.

I can see how this could be a risk but he has never felt homesick yet (even when the bullying was going on) so I don't really worry about that. His feeling so far has been that he wishes the camps were longer like his cousins have in the US. If he could stay for longer than a week he would in a heartbeat!

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WonderingWanda · 26/05/2026 23:09

Thinking back, I did a couple of weeks long school trips in primary school so under the age of 11. We used to take money to use the payphone (pre mobile days) to ring our parents. My own kids have only done very short school trips in primary 1 or 2 nights and we had no phone contact with them. On ds's secondary trips abroad we spoke with him in the evenings on his mobile.

MigGirl · 26/05/2026 23:13

Both my kids have done a lot of scouting, nights away from age 6, but not week long camps until Scouts at 10. They both loved it and never had any problems.

Phone or electronic devices are not allowed by our scout group until they are in explores age 14. So I have never rung them on camp, they do know their leaders really well though and would be happy to ask them to deal with any issues they had.

Maybe encourage your son to talk to an adult if he has any issues with other children while on these activity holidays.

Imunravelled · 26/05/2026 23:23

It sounds like you have an independent child there! 8 years old is definitely on the younger end of things to do a full week at PGL (is it the youngest they take them now?) without knowing anyone so it's not over the top to give him a quick call half way through the week. There will be other kids whose parents will have been in contact every day so don't worry about it being too much.

With mine I always had a conversation with them beforehand so they knew how they could get in contact with me if they wanted to (before having their own phone) and then said I would let them choose if they wanted to call.

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