What is a reasonable wedding gift amount these days?

[Fragmanandan]

It's been over five years since I've been to a wedding - is £100 still the done thing or has it gone up like everything else??

Whole wedding £100, evening do around £50. Close relatives about £150. God children, I’d offer to contribute towards the cost of the wedding.

This! I dislike this transactional approach. Otherwise, why don't the bride and groom just invoice everyone?

Definitely in Ireland €200 per couple is pretty standard, more for close friends or family

No way would I give £200-£250 unless it was very close family . My DD married last year , the wedding food cost £120 pp but they didn’t expect people to cover their costs . Most gave £50-£80. Some more , some less . There was no judgement & all gifts were gratefully received
We usually give £100 as day guests and £50 as evening .

Weddings have got out of hand. If people getting married can't afford to feed their guests, they should scale down their plans. I would give what i could afford, regardless of the cost of the catering.

It’s a gift, though, not an entrance fee…

But nobody is asking anybody to.pay for their food! People cater for their guests.

Maybe they could only afford 50 euro? Even that could have been a stretch to their budget, on top of other costs of attending a wedding.

What do people in Ireland do if they don't have the money to give hundreds of euro as wedding gifts? People could be facing the choice of getting into debt, being unable to pay for essentials or deciding not to attend a family member or close friend's wedding. Or perhaps they could give what they can afford and the B&G accept the gift with good grace and no bitchiness.

And like a PP its especially ridiculous to give more money to people who have a fancy wedding compared with those who had a more modest one, especially if that was what they could afford.

I'm irish its a bit different I think vs uk and without boring you they definitely could have afforded more...

You are not paying for your dinner, FFS, so you give whatever you wish, and can afford. Might depend on how close you are to the couple too.
So if it's £20, plus a kind message in a card, that's absolutely fine.
Any couple who expect to recoup what they have spent are just idiots.

I am shocked at these replies! I don’t pay to attend a wedding and wouldn’t give £200! £50 gift from the two of us is fine. I say this having been to a bbq/canapé wedding this weekend. Ive already paid £200 for the hen plus cost of outfit etc…..

I can't believe people giving only £50 for a couple/family attending all day- £25 per person or less!

I already posted up thread, but I'd normally give £200 for a couple attending all day. More for close family. If relevant, I'm not Irish.

It's still £100 you're right though, it hasn't gone up in ages. Maybe give more then.

I am shocked anyone is giving £200. Does that not seem absolutely obscene? Would you give £200 for a birthday or Christmas gift, and, if not, why is it different?

Close friend/family £100
famy/friend day invite £75
evening £30

Don't feel pressured to give more than you can afford.
Recently we’ve given £200 for daytime invites, £100 for evenings. That’s DH and I as a couple, no kids invited.
Would be more for family, but no sign of any of the youngsters getting hitched here!
Weddings are a good deal - A restaurant meal out somewhere decent is £100 a head round here, plus you get a band, disco etc. it’d cost you a lot more to do a meal out/nightclub these days!

I’d take a bottle of champagne, but I suppose it’s for your husband to sort out.

Wedding food is very rarely decent and you have no or very limited choice. You’re also stuck with no choice in your company, style of music, volume of music, venue etc.

Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy weddings, but by the time you’ve got there you’ve often spent a fortune on engagement gifts, hen dos, transport to the wedding, often an overnight stay and an outfit. They often cost guests a fortune and I really don’t understand why people then give the couple £200. It would be unthinkable to give that at a birthday party.

Birthday and Christmas are annual events though and generally not the massive celebration that a wedding is. You'd also hope, that a wedding is a one off event, plus its for 2 people not one, so yes, of course its different!

Someone with sense… I was beginning to think I was seriously out of touch. There’s no way we can afford to give £200 as a wedding gift… I would also never expect my guests to be paying that much it’s crazy! People are invited to come and witness your day and celebrate, gifts are a bonus not a repayment for the day!