Life is feeling way too stressful at the moment and I can't cope, I've been saying it for months but getting nowhere. Both DH and I worl full time, we have a son with AuDHD who is not coping and on a daily basis I'm having to collect him from school, or bring him home for the lunch break. He has a sudden behavioural change and he isn't sleeping - we have a 4 month wait for the neurologist. I haven't really slept for the last 5 nights, as DS hasn't slept. I'm the default parent for DS - common with kods like mine they have a preference. He won't let DH do anything. DH has ADHD and in the last 6 weeks he has lost wallet, clothes, work equipment, forgotten to get MOT on car, has no idea what his schedule is. We both travel for work and one of us travels each week. There's no respite. My world has got smaller as I've just become so overwhelmed I've detached from everything and stopped speaking to people - I'm spiralling. We are having a lot of problems with DS and it is all consuming - on the surface he looks like every other child but I'm reality he needs so much help - eating, toileting, emotional regulation, sleeping. We live abroad with no family support around. I've fallen behind with work, life admin, I have no time for self care, I'm exhausted, I have no idea how to get away from feeling like this. I just want some advice......what has worked for you. I'm desperate for some alone time, I want to decanter the house but I am never alone. My DS will not leave the house without me..he will not go anywhere with his dad. There's no respite at night because he doesn't really sleep.