Does anyone else keep leaving Mumsnet and then rejoining?

[ThisTimeForGood]

I keep deleting my account and starting a new one because, on some days, MN is full of really mean and petty people that just have to have the last word, even if it's wrong and pointless to the subject to hand.

But, on other days, I talk to some of the sweetest, most caring and helpful people and I miss that engagement.

I wondered if anyone else does the same or am I just erratic? 😳

I sign in on Google and NC often not for nefarious reasons.
Just depends what record I I like at the time.

Ive been here for 15 years, on and off. I've only deleted my acount once when there was a data breach. I had used my normal email to sign up originally so I created an a new email just for here, and rejoined.

I can go months without looking at the website, but there is so much info shared here, I always come back.

Oh yeah, and I NC regularly-ish.

I've been using Mumsnet for nearly 20 years, since I realised I was pregnant with DS1 and browsed the pregnancy shelf in a large bookshop, and came across a Mumsnet publication. I joined antenatal and postnatal threads for both DS1 and DS2, 2 of each because my babies were both due late in a month, and were both born at just over 41 weeks, and I had a May baby and a February one, not April and January. I'm still in contact with several people I "met" on MN and sometimes even in person when our babies were tiny, but not necessarily in the same place where we first chatted online.

I've had long gaps in posting at all and now I mostly post in books, money and education. I did join several threads for parents whose kids were in the same year or at the same stage of education, but I've often fallen off threads.

I've never actually bothered leaving. Some sections or threads on MN are dominated by people whose aren't ones I share, and they can be unpleasant or shocking, so I can understand why you might want to delete your account/run away.

Thank you for saying you understand. 💞

It probably seems silly but I've come on here for help a few times only to feel dismissed or mocked. I don't know what it is about this site that brings out the horrible side of people but sometimes it's overwhelming.

I log off wondering if there is any hope for humanity and feel a great loss.

Maybe instead of deleting, I should just take a break like you and others have done, occasionally.

@ThisTimeForGood I had one poster that really upset me.
The thread was about DV and I revealed I was male.
I spoke of the violence I'd seen and trying to protect mum then I'd get punched and kicked(I was9)it stopped when I'd wet myself through fear.
I wasn't talking as a man I was highlighting the trauma that 9yrold child and the subsequent problems it caused later.

One poster really went for it because I was male and ignoring the very real violence that mum and I experienced.
Saying plenty of women experience it we don't need a man tell us about it.

As above I was telling it through that 9yr olds eyes.
I don't often say I'm male and I don't pretend I'm a woman.

@MajorLanceYouDontWantMeNoMoreNsoul really sorry you experienced that from sharing your past. I have seen what is referred to as a 'pile-on' and they are so ruthless. This can be especially true when anyone defends men on a certain board so I steer well clear of that one because there is no hope for a balanced discussion there. Thanks for not pretending to be a woman just because some take objection to you being a man. I have seen women who appreciate that men are here to contribute in a positive way. I'm one of them.

@MajorLanceYouDontWantMeNoMoreNsoul
I'm really sorry about your experience when you were a child. And the posters response to you talking about it on the thread about DV was truly shocking.

Yes OP I have closed my account a few times and then rejoined. I've experienced pile-ons and I also sometimes just get depressed by what MN reveals about the cruelty and unpleasantness of life.

I do miss MN after I've had a short break though - I must be addicted. So I start having a wee peek at it again as a non member and then a thread will catch my attention that I want to comment on and so rejoin to do that.

I have but mainly to clear my data and usernames and start fresh, I don't like too much stuff sitting together on a forum

@Blundl How do you clear your data?

Sorry, probably worded that wrong, gets rid of stuff like your email and username links if it was hacked, all my posts from previous registrations are still there but they are not linked to my registration now,

I have learned when I am too fragile to even look at MN. I have to feel pretty robust to engage.

It's frustrating when posters are so rude or seem to deliberately derail or misunderstand. Hopefully they don't behave like it in real life. It can get really really nasty. Proper loony.

I really don't like the AIBU section and the polls. Oh, it would be fine if it was for fun opinion rants - even ones which got a bit mean like one about table seats on trains recently.

But I really wish women who post looking for help weren't for some reason posting on AIBU and inviting other women to be nasty.

@Blundl Same here.

I’ve found people comment on my age in a derogatory way. As if you are worthless when you are a bit older! Out of date and obviously a bit dim.

I joined Mumsnet in 2003 and must have left and rejoined 10 times 😂