Is this normal behaviour for my 12 year old writing die and kill myself notes

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Just gone to get pj's from my 12 yr old bedroom and ive came across a bunch of notes shes wrote saying die die die die over and over, Go kill your self, I want to die , teachers pet, no one lieks you, you make life harder, your not invited ect

Now this isnt the 1st time ive came across stuff like this but she only does these notes
when shes incredibly angry /had a friendship upset within school that day

Ive spoken to her and she assured me she doesn't feel like this but is so angry so likes to write it down. I am starting to get a bit concerned I wont lie, there was yet another huge falling out yesterday between her and some friends and im sure these are related with the context so theyve obviously been freshly wrote

Is it attention seeking behaviour is it quite normal at this age I really have no idea . We've had a huge change in her this year secondary school had made a huge impact and we have definitely entered the hormonal puberty stage

It obviously doesn't sound great, however my DD hit puberty early and hard, got into emo type music around the same age and for a while was all nobody understands me, quite morbid, etc. I never saw notes like this but it wouldn't have entirely surprised me. She used to print out macabre quotes/lyrics and stick them on her bedroom wall 😄

I think the important thing here is that you can talk to her about it and she's sharing her feelings with you. It sounds like she's reacting in a dramatic (hormonal) way to emotional stress. What's she like at other times?

@Lins77 shes otherwise fine the usual stroppyness but nothing to do with dieing killing ect nothing negative

I don't know if this helps but I also did the same. Turns out I was just undiagnosed autistic and ADHD and had no ability to process/understand my emotions.

I don't think that is common at all, no. I would speak to someone at the school and see what they can suggest. And obviously speak to her yourself - and spend lots of time together

If you are sure she doesn't actually mean any of this fair enough. But I might run it past someone to be sure.

It's encouraging that she has told you a reason - if she just clammed up or said 'It's nothing' or 'I dunno', I'd be very worried, but she is expressing a reason she's using these notes as an outlet that suggests she's not hiding anything.

But obviously, keep channels open - I'd keep talking every time you find them, check in with her that's she's not starting to believe this stuff. I don't know if it might be possible for her to get her anger out in a more positive way that doesn't risk leading her thoughts down dark paths?

They can be very dramatic at this age. If there's not a pattern of other troubling behaviour (stroppiness is normal!) I wouldn't be too worried, but obviously keep lines of communication open and be vigilant.

I’m a teacher of 11-16 and it’s getting more and more common I’d say around 50%+ do this kind of thing now. KMS or KYS is really common. If it was my child I would be trying to stamp it out to try an illicit if there was any substance to it.