Would you say anything? (TW CSA)

[Cutchemist]

I am 49, when I was a child I was abused by my friends older teenage brother. He did it many times over a few years. I told my mum and I don’t know what she did but it didn’t stop, he just said I better not tell my mum this time. Eventually it did stop.
Anyway, he used to share a bed with my friend sometimes and now I think about it I presume he was doing it to her too.
I see this friend once or twice a year. She is a lovely person and we share many memories from our childhood. I’ve never mentioned what her brother did, occasionally I consider whether it would be appropriate to ask her about it.
i know she sees him so either has chosen to forget about it or nothing happened.
It is not a massive deal, I barely think about it now but every time I go to meet her I think about it and sometimes I don’t want to se ever but only because of him.
WWYD?

• See her

I think you need to find a way to ask her. But accept that she may not like it and your friendship could be ruined.

Thanks for your reply. Why do you think I should ask her?

Because you've considered it in the past, and it may help you to move on.

It's okay that you don't dwell on it, which I don't think would be healthy, but it's equally okay if you want some closure through acknowledgement.

But, as someone said already, be prepared for denial and/or loss of friendship. Some people aren't ready to open a closed door or opened at all.

I'm sorry this happened to you.