Help! How to stop dd3 from climbing out of her cot?!

[TheDrswife]

We are at our wits end, last night she was up basically all night, climbing straight back out when returned to her cot. Does anyone have a magic solution??

Yes on the whole I don’t like super nanny but this one worked well for us!

Shocking to imagine that young children need to actually be parented….

You do teeth, PJs, story, then dim the lights and sit with them, cuddling if that’s what your child needs, until they fall asleep. This doesn’t take long, once they are asleep you leave. You won’t need to spend all night in their room, meet their need to comfort and they’ll go to sleep.

This western idea that you should be able to put a baby/small child to bed, awake, and leave them to fall asleep on their own, is unnatural and unrealistic, and you can see how unrealistic it is based on the sheer number of threads like this all over parenting forums asking how to get children to do it. Instagram is full of ‘sleep consultants’ peddling snake oil systems that promise 12 hours of easy sleep, you can even buy special night time drinks to help children nod off, all because we have been misled into thinking we don’t need to parent them.

This is the older child version of cry-it-out. It teaches your child to give up, because their need for comfort and security won’t be met. Supernanny promotes a bunch of stuff that ‘works’ but isn’t developmentally sound or healthy.

It worked for us because he knew someone was there just not making a big fuss.

like I said I dislike most of her things but the calm return to bed worked wonders!

Is it unnatural for kids to stop wetting the bed and shitting their pants too?
Because there’s threads about that too

What about eating vegetables? Is that unnatural?

Not biting people?

Sharing?

A kid not wanting to do something doesn’t make it unnatural.

WTF, who has a 3 yr old in a cot!!! I suppose the child isn’t toilet trained either???
You ditch the cot the minute they know how to crawl out to prevent injury.
mattress on the floor if necessary. By 3 they are usually toilet trained an go to the loo occasionally.

Our twins have been in there own bed since 1.5 never liked a cot then they tootle thru when they wake in the morning and now 3 they've been going from bed to toilet on there own for quite a long time now as we ditched nappy pants a while ago for night

i am surprised with your 3rd, is she your 3rd or age 3, that you havent thought about the bed

Yes my youngest child was in a bed from age 1, with a bed rail.

you can always put a stair gate on their bedroom door if you are worried they would injure themselves or escape while you are asleep. Obviously this depends on the child’s and obviously leave the bedroom
door wide open as it’s just to buy you a minute to wake you up if they get up wandering in the night. (Not to be used as a prison thing like something the Dursleys would have)

When she moves yo the bed there will definitely be a period of time where she keeps getting out, it will pass though. Just make sure the room is safe and keep returning her to bed until she gets the message.

The sleep clocks only work for the most compliant of children…. took both of mine (independently) less than 10 minutes to figure out how to change them….

They can be screen locked. My children are definitely not compliant kids but consistency from very young toddlers means they understand what is expected.

You can try a net canopy but she's likely to be furious if she can't unzip it. This is not a containment issue. She now needs to choose to stay in bed until the sun on her clock comes on. However if she is willing to sleep on a mattress beside your bed when she comes in, I'm not sure that it's such a problem.

The trouble with staying with them for a while while they settle and then waiting with them until they fall asleep is that when they wake up later, they can't cope because you have suddenly disappeared. They can't fall back asleep on their own because they don't know how, and they either scream the place down so you come running, or they get out of bed and come looking for you. Neither of which is satisfactory, either for you or for them.

They can, but then there would a be punishment for that.
I don’t avoid things because my kids are going to kick up a fuss.

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This ^

Not all 3yr olds are potty trained. Stop being so judgey

Oh, we didn’t just give up. They can read numbers at 3 years old! But I wouldn’t waste money on one of these clocks, they are perfectly capable of recognising numbers on a standard digital clock!

@Wynter25 certainly should be well under way.
Maybe we need to bring back judgy, enough of letting people get away with lazy parenting.

So every 3yr old who isnt potty trained is because of lazy parents. Yes some maybe but not all. Not all are ready. My son wasnt.

Back in the day my son had figured out how to unlock his Gro Clock by the next morning. I sold it on Facebook after few months of it being pointless.
I hope newer models are less easy to figure out.

At 3yo I'd move her into a bed and put a stairgate over the door. You can get extra tall ones.

Ds was climbing out at 7/8 months - wearing a sleeping bag as well. We ended up just having him sleep on a mattress on the floor which was far safer and he slept better.

Put her in her sleeping bag but put it on back to front. So the zip is at the back. She can’t undo it to climb out. It worked wonders for my 3 sons. You can then move them to their own beds when they are ready and understand better. They won’t then climb out. I’m talking 3.5 years not long term. It helps in the short term and gives you some sleep again!

Unless there is some sort of additional need,I agree that’s it’s lazy and crap parenting. Parents spending too much time on their phone, having too many other kids that they can’t cope with, attention elsewhere but not on the children, generally can’t be arsed to parent. Parents are really letting their kids down in many cases.