Fed up with constant chat about weight loss injections

[Mrssweary]

I’m sick to death of hearing about weight loss injections and how amazing it is and how I should get on to it. My husbands secretly using it as he was over weight he’s hiding it from our child to. Every conversation seems to revolve around this bloody drug.

It’s messed up the rhythm of the household, meal times are an absolute nightmare, he does his own food so I shouldn’t be moaning but it getting on my nerves.

I’m being shown how many calories things are on an app all the time it’s constant.
I go shopping I buy something he would eat last week but this week it’s not good enough. The cupboards are full of crap he keeps buying off Amazon such as collegen powders etc.

I think this whole thing of being ‘healthy’ has gone too far. It’s as bad as being overweight in my opinion.

You can tell Facebook not to show you ads again or even any ads from a specific company again. That’s how I don’t have any ads from Shein or Temu any more.

@Mrssweary this is surely about your relationship rather than the specific topic? He could be boring you about golf, or a favourite musician, or whatever. The issue is that you are not interested and don’t want to discuss it, but he is not listening to you and continuing to mention it all the time.

I've lost weight with WLI and found it all pretty life changing. I did have one conversation with DH about it all and he made it pretty clear he wasn't interested, so I've not mentioned it since. As for messed up mealtimes - I've tried to make it as low-impact as possible, I don't have takeaways but don't stop him having them, I still cook for the family but substitute things or have a smaller portion myself. And I have some supplements in the cupboard!

So if he's being a total diet bore, I can understand your frustration. Equally if you're sensitive about your own size and find it triggering to the point that seeing him eat something different is annoying you - it's not fair to put that on him.

It will pass - once the initial wonder wears off, he will hopefully find it more routine.

He’s male! Why is he buying collagen?!!!

No idea. Something he’s probably seen to do whilst on these injections.

I think you're getting a rough ride here, OP.

I don't know anyone using WLI, or if I do they've never mentioned it and it isn't obvious, and I've never had a discussion about the subject with anyone.

But it does sound crushingly boring to live with, particularly as your husband seems to have also succumbed to marketing hype about other products.

That said, I am sensitive around the topics of eating, weight loss, meal preparations etc. Not because I'm overweight (although I have been decades ago), but because I have a history of eating disorders and know just how damaging becoming obsessed about weight/food can be.

I'm not implying that you have a similar history, but that's what I'd find irritating about his behaviour: he sounds obsessed without realising where that mindset could lead.

What is classed as obese nowadays?

Because collagen is supposed to help with skin elasticity and so supposed to help with loose skin. There’s no actual evidence for it, but at worst you’re eating a bit more protein albeit as an expensive supplement rather than just as food.

BMI of 30+ generally
it hasn't changed

Can’t you just support him as it’s important to him ?

Can I ask if you get upset because you think he is loosing weight and you are not ? You have said you are obese , size 16 is obese ( before you think I’m being mean I’m a size 16 myself so I feel the struggle ) .

Yes. I'm trying collegen, vitamins, probiotics & lactase and because I can barely eat 500-600 calories day some days, because right now the biologic drugs ain't working very well for my medical condition. I feel and look wretched.

Anyone who can eat a regular Mediterranean diet (or similar) shouldn't really need these (cumulatively expensive) supplements on top of expensive WLI, not with a family to think of financially.

And the subject is not interesting for other people.

At her weight, the OP would have to be under five feet to be a 14/16?

Well, I would say it’s likely not an interesting subject for other people, but you always have to allow for individual taste and interest! Certainly I never discuss weight, diet, exercise, etc with anyone unless they raise it with me and then I don’t really want to get into a conversation about it.

Dress size is a very imprecise way to try to gauge whether someone is obese or overweight. Height and weight is all that’s needed, so you can calculate BMI. We don’t know the OPs height, so BMI can’t be calculated.

Not weird at all. It's more likely that people become way to obsessed with the lastest 'health' fad and let it take over their lives to the exclusion of a normal diet. And then bore the crap out of their family and friends about it.

See I get why it would be boring/annoying for you but also why it’s so exciting for him.

From experience, it’s far more frustrating when your partner stops taking them, goes back to eating mostly sugar and then moans about weight gain (Not everyone is like this obvs)

Haven’t seen her weight just her size

OPs weight and BMII has nothing to do with her partner being obsessed with the latest health trend
Why are people trying to have a dig.
You dont have to be a size 8 to realise that bangle ain't gonna make you lose weight or drinking collagen isn't going to make you look 20 years younger.

A BMI over 30.

A BMI over 30 is obese. You can be a size 16 and not have a BMI over 30. Equally you can have a BMI over 30 and be a size 14.

Thank you.