Do women pregnant with their first baby get something on Mother's Day?

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I'm curious how many mothers got a present/card/some sort of acknowledgement when they were pregnant with their first? Particularly those in their last trimester.

Is it jumping the gun or does someone going through pregnancy deserve a little something too?

a family member of mines received a Mother’s Day gift while 7 months pregnant. I did think it was bizarre to be honest.

Jumping the gun

I worked in a card shop, there are cards like this and I sold one once … I remember thinking awwww!

Indeed. I was a mum from when I was pregnant with our first baby. If others feel differently, that ok, but anyone telling me I’m only a vessel at that point, then ‘respectfully’, they can fuck off.

My friends husband acknowledged Mother’s Day when she was 5 months pregnant. She very sadly went on to lose their baby a couple of months later and also couldn’t have children afterwards. She is very thankful that she got one Mother’s Day with her baby and they mark mothers and Father’s Day each year since which is 12 years now. They very much feel like parents to the baby they lost, and how dare anyone tell them they were/are in some way wrong to acknowledge Mother’s Day or Father’s Day.

No.

No.
And unless your DH is completely on board with this you might have to have realistic expectations until your child is old enough to understand the concept.

My dd was born on Mothering Sunday (4th Sunday in lent). Mother’s Day in May was made up by hallmark cards.

No, but I was never pregnant in March.

Not really. I took my sister a bunch of daffodils as Mother’s Day a few weeks before her due date but that was about it!

No.
It was more a ‘this time next year…..’ sort of situation.

I absolutely wouldn't have expected anything but if DH had bought me a box of chocolates I certainly wouldn't have said no. Being pregnant can be a bit shit and I think it would be a nice thing to do.

No, I wouldn’t have wanted that. You’re not a mum until you have a baby in my opinion. And thst isn’t guaranteed

You can do whatever you want but traditionally no

No. Mother’s Day has passed in UK though now.

For all the “tempting fate” comments, I’d argue that you ARE a mother, even if God forbid the baby isn’t born. There might even be comfort in the fact you were celebrated as a mother once if it never happens again.

No, I think it’s a bit weird really. Also I think when you’re pregnant, you don’t really get it yet. It’s absolutely not the same as being a mum.

That's so lovely!

XH bought me a card and wrote something like "thank you for keeping me safe and I can't wait to meet you"

I didn't expect it, but thought it was wonderful.

It’s not just America and Australia that celebrate it today. It’s also many countries in Europe.

OP I don’t think pregnancy Mother’s Day is a thing as it is bad luck. Maybe a small acknowledgement to ‘this time next’ year would be nice but I’ve never experienced or heard of it.

Please be very certain she will want this before you do it to her.

I have lost more than 5 pregnancies. I would not have wanted anyone pre-empting a successful birth for me in this way.

Some people will not buy anything for a baby before it’s here, and I think that’s sensible. A dear friend lost her baby at a few hours old due to birth complications. Imagine how she’d have felt going home to a Mother’s Day card, even worse than having to go home and dismantle the cot and get rid of a pram.

No you get mother's Day gifts when you've had the baby

It's specifically a mother's day brunch the niece has been invited to. If she's only been invited because she's pregnant I assume she's on board with the whole thing. I would have just declined because I would have felt weird about the whole event.

No I didn’t but if you other half chose to .. that’s sweet but it’s certainly not something you should expect.
really mothers day is for children to show appreciation to their mothers.

Not even heard of it and tbh wouldn't have ever wanted until I had my kids

My lovely MIL sent me flowers and a soft toy for my baby on the Mother's Day just before he was born. I wasn't expecting anything but I was very touched that she'd thought of it.