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Can I stay anonymous if i call the police to do a welfare check? Long ish..

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islyd · 09/05/2026 20:48

Going to give context to show the contrast between how it has been for the last three years to complete silence..

Neighbours moved into flat below mine three years ago. It’s been hell on earth every day and night since. They are both on heroin.
Constant noise all day and throughout the night on repeat, arguing, fighting, screaming, smashing windows, slamming doors so hard
I’m surprised they are still on their hinges, shouting in the street all night, arguments that sometimes went on for 6 hours plus. In a nutshell
They were so noisy the neighbours that live across the road can hear them with their windows shut..

Also want to mention both of them have threatened me a few times over the years, had a brick thrown through my window for refusing
To give them money for drugs, Told if I ever reported them and they got evicted they would come back and smash all my windows so
They are not the sort of people you can talk to.. (This is why I haven’t knocked on the door or reported it yet..)

Anyway, she moved out two and a half weeks ago, she left in her new boyfriends car with all her stuff in bags and hasn’t been seen Since. My male neighbour did not go with them.

I know all the above because I work from home and the flats have thin walls so I can hear almost everything.

The issue is I have not heard a sound from his flat since she left. All the things I hear all the time such as his phone ringing, him
Talking on the phone, him flushing his toilet, opening or closing his front door, him coughing/sneezing, his tv on or music playing.
Nothing. At all. No sounds what so ever, It’s like it’s gone from total hell on earth to being like nobody lives there. Not noticed any Lights on at night and also he didn’t put his bin out.

Starting to think he might have maybe overdosed or died. He could have gone away somewhere but I didn’t hear him leave if
He has and he has never been away in the entire time he has lived here, he has a routine he sticks to, and is always in his flat
(Not being horrible just stating facts…) taking drugs at all hours and staying up all night. If I Knocked on his door to check on him now and he answered he would literally shout at me and threaten me. I live alone.

If I call the police for a welfare check I was wondering if anyone knows if I can stay anonymous because if I’m wrong about this
Then he will make my life hell, I don’t want him to know it was me that called if it turns out he is ok..

Also do I mention he takes heroin and worried he might have overdosed or just ask for a welfare check on the basis of not Seeing or hearing him for weeks?

OP posts:
ChickenBananaBanana · 09/05/2026 20:51

Kinda brutal but wouldn't you know if a dead body had been around for weeks?

islyd · 09/05/2026 20:52

ChickenBananaBanana · 09/05/2026 20:51

Kinda brutal but wouldn't you know if a dead body had been around for weeks?

I have been thinking the same thing, not sure if anything is wrong or if I'm wrong and don't want to waste police time if it turns out to be nothing

OP posts:
BeanMeUp · 09/05/2026 20:52

You can report a concern for welfare. They may have access to additional info (e.g. if hes in hospital or prison). You can also explain that you dont want it disclosed that you called because of the potential repercussions. The fact hes a heroin user is necessary to disclose in terms of risk to himself, but also potential risk to officers if they gain entry.

Essentially, tell them what you've said here

likelysuspect · 09/05/2026 20:54

Yes tell them about the drug use and the stark contrast. We have had a lot of parents we work with found dead Im afraid through just this thing.

MamaMumMama · 09/05/2026 20:54

Call the non emergency line, report it and give no details. He might have left

KilkennyCats · 09/05/2026 20:59

How do you know he hasn’t just moved out too? It’s a bit of a leap to imagine he’s dead.

somanychristmaslights · 09/05/2026 20:59

After 2.5 weeks, you’d definitely know if he was dead. Especially as it’s been warm. But you can still phone the police and let them know what’s happened anonymously.

NotHavingAlaff · 10/05/2026 03:51

Do you know who his landlord is? You could ask them to check or they may tell you if he has moved out

professionalcommentreader · 10/05/2026 03:58

Maybe she killed him. If you’re worried you can ask for a welfare check and stay anonymous

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