Does any of this sound like a condition ? Bil ?

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Dh sisters husband I find very hard to tolerate and my patience is running thin but I'm also wondering if maybe he has sen or another condition and I should try and have more patience ?

Physicallly he moves his face a lot constant movement hand to mouth , paces when on the phone and can't sit still for long it seems !

Never seems to relax and playing games with the DC has no issues saying when he's bored .

All of that I can cope with it just giving the physical side.

He seems very focused on details eg he was looking at the floor with great suspicion picked up a teeny bell of some sort that was left over from Xmas and he was questioning why it was still there.
He has said he has to win at everything and has frequently put Dh down over jobs houses where we go on holiday etc. for instance ,oh dear you had to pay for yourself to go to Paris if you have the right job they pay for you.
Always giving unwanted advise and never talks to DH like equal adults with DH having somerhng to say rather he's like a teacher trying to teach us.
But he also has this side which I find the hardest he doesn't seem to have any emotions . I've seen him heard him snorting though his nose when he has been angered but he doesn't seem caring in anyway at all. .he has two DC and we have two and he does interact with them but annoying stuff like bouncing a ball of their heads ? ( I had to ask him to stop ). But he doesnt seem caring he hugs them , but talks about grades and percentages, and will mention all the weird stuff rather than ..." Remember when Emily was ten and was obsessed with Greece " it would be Emily damaged our house and ripped off paper ...stuff like that ? He also seems to instantly fall into what sil says or wants eg . It's cold indont want the DC outside anymore he will instantly say and copy it.
That restaurant doesn't look clean he will instantly agree without even seeing it ?
I'm not explaining myself well at all.
(He's also got a very good career and is high up in sales and probably going to Malaysia for a stint at some point)

Well this is rude. You can just say you don't like him. You don't have to try diagnose him to justify your feelings.

He might have something going on but he is most likely just a selfish stupid argumentative prick. If your husband is his brother then he’ll be specifically trying to wind him up, a lot of brothers carry this dynamic into adulthood if they were argumentative as kids/teens and it spills out.

Sisters husband

He just sounds like a giant arsehole.

Plenty of men afflicted similarly.

@Purplewarrior thanks ! I'm hoping this malaysian job comes through 😂 but his mannerism seem unusual to me. Unfortunately because of the DC we see a lot of him.

Dh sisters husband I find very hard to tolerate and my patience is running thin but I'm also wondering if maybe he has sen or another condition and I should try and have more patience ?

If you can be more patient, why would you only put that into practise if we tell you that yes, it does sound like a 'condition'?

You've assassinated his whole character so even if a Doctor diagnosed him, it's not going to make you two get on any better.

Surely the diagnosis is just ‘annoying, tactless and a bit twitchy’?

'Insufferable self-absorbed argumentative twat with a massive ego and an inflated sense of self-importance who likes to belittle other people' seems to be the most likely diagnosis from where I'm standing.

Well yes I'd agree with those diagnosis but i was wondering if the physical side denoted any issues you see.

I have a family member like this. He knows everything about everything, always knows better than you, even if you, say, have a PhD in the subject (🙄 me). Or he’s always trying to tell Dh how to run his company and what investors he needs and to do this or don’t do that, despite having absolutely no experience running a business or working in this industry or anything close to it. He can rant on for days about some topic and just bulldoze over you no matter how much you try to engage with him. He’s blunt and rude and no one likes him and he has no friends.

Now he does, in fact, happen to be autistic and it gets trotted out all the time to excuse his behaviour. For example, his criminal history and why his whole family is NC with him. 🙄 But there are plenty of autistic people in this world who manage to get by without acting like such total jerks. You can be both autistic and an obnoxious twat.

@mindutopia

Thanks that also sounds very hard to deal with