Bullying, stopping bullying and things that work

[MargaretThursday]

I've been musing this after a conversation with a friend.

Talking about bullying; mid-teens or adult, so old enough that they'll be fully aware that they're bullying, with no possible excuse they didn't realise/banter etc.

Has anyone ever known a situation where a bully has been told off, told to stop bullying and told consequences (which will happen) - and it's had a positive outcome?

And if you say it has no effect/drives it underground, then has anyone seen anything that has worked in their particular circumstance?

Stopping fighting against it and not rising under any circumstances has led to people who previously bullied me coming to like and respect me on more than one occasion

I have a boss who’s a bully and the only thing that has worked for me is to call it out every single time. It’s bloody wearing but she’s improved, I assume based on the acct that she feels embarrassed, I don’t know.

My son has recently had a bully at work (his line manager). Today he was asked to make a statement, bully has been suspended pending an investigation. It does get dealt with.

Depends on the circumstances. I’ve physically fought someone as a child that was bulling me, I clobbered them and they never did it again, as an adult I had a verbal show down with the bully in front of everyone and refused to back down, the bully ended up in tears and ran out of the room, she then ignored me for months which didn’t bother me but she never tried to bully me again. Another time we had a bully for a boss and the whole team called a meeting with his superiors and he ended up getting fired in the end. Another way is to constantly ask them ‘what do you mean?’ Or ‘in what way did you mean? Or ‘can you explain what you meant? Or ask them if they are feeling ok? whenever they try to belittle you. Befriend everyone else around you and the bully so it sticks out like a sore thumb that it is only them that apparently has a problem with you. Act confident around the bully even if you don’t feel it. And if all else fails tell them to fuck off.