Would you take your teenage son on a honeymoon?

[tnorfotkcab]

If you got married again later in life, and had a 15-year-old son. No issues, no additional needs etc

Would you take him on your honeymoon?

He has a father he could stay with, he has his grandparents, his auntie etc who would happily take him and has stayed there before at summer holidays.

Come on guys ! This is MN and this is a step child we are talking about. Of course the step child should go on honeymoon. What on earth are you thinking. A step child must be pandered to at all times. With their wants and needs at the forefront of all your planning.. until they are ready to leave home and if step child is not happy with the up coming nuptials/new marriage, you should immediately cancel any thought of personal happiness and call off the wedding or get a divorce.

Will there also be a family holiday? If not then i would take him.

For a honeymoon in addition to family holiday I would probably only want to go 2-3 nights. (Assuming some one can keep an eye on him and he is sensible). IGNORE last paragraph just remembered he can stay with dad.

I really dislike people calling holidays with children honeymoons. If you have children there it’s not a honeymoon. It’s just a holiday!

I'm not sure any 15 year old boy would want to be dragged away on their mum's honeymoon to her new fella to be honest.

I agree that it stops being a honeymoon and is just a family holiday, which is fine if that's what you want but personally I'd like time alone as there can be other holidays that are more family oriented.

We had no choice but to take our 18 month-old with us on ours, but tbf it was only a few days away in Birmingham!
We didn't really see it as a honeymoon; more like a little family holiday. And you know what? It was absolutely wonderful ❤️ 100% better than my "posh" honeymoon with my first husband!
But I definitely wouldn't have taken my teenagers!!
The good news is we are finally getting our "real' honeymoon soon - we just had to wait until we felt our daughter was old enough to be OK with staying with grandparents. We've only waited 4.5 years. Sooooooooo excited!!!

Where do you fit into this scenario @tnorfotkcab ?

Don’t be so utterly ridiculous no 15 year old needs to go on his mums honeymoon and it is not even remotely a red flag if the step dad to be doesn’t want him there. It’s entirely different to a family holiday

Yes but it would be a family holiday rather than a honeymoon.

No right or wrong

entirely circumstances and background dependent

I wouldn’t take a child on a honeymoon.

Either have a traditional honeymoon for the two of you, or make it a family holiday.

Depends if he wants to go and you’re both happy to have him there surely? If he goes, it’ll just be a family holiday.

No.

No, not if he has people he could happily stay with. Otherwise it isn't really a honeymoon

Surely no teenager would want to go on a honeymoon?

its my cousin and her son - I just think it's weird he's going!

Absolutely not. Even for two weeks. Your honeymoon is just that. Not a family holiday.

i think it really depends.

Sharing a room - no way.

Something like a villa in a location that is teen-friendly, maybe.

But like others have said, I don’t know many 15 year olds who would want to go on someone else’s honeymoon, knowing what it likely entails!

I wouldn’t have went on holiday without my children so yes I would have.

I guess they are using the ‘honeymoon’ as an occasion to bond as a new family.

The traditional idea of a honeymoon is from times when a young couple wouldn’t have slept together before their wedding night - and I’m pretty certain that’s not the case here.

As long as the son has his own room, then I can see why your cousin would want to do this, and presumably it’s something her new partner and her son are OK with. A bit of a misnomer calling it a honeymoon I guess.

Depends how me and husband saw the honeymoon.
Celebratory holiday - yes.
Shagathon - no

Yeah I would as long as he actually wanted to come and was going to be good company.

Lets face it, most marriages now are between people who have lived together for a number of years.

So it's basically just a holiday anyway and most people take their DC on their holidays.

Yes, of course, parents shouldn’t go on holiday without their kids. It’s mean

I would if he wanted to come. It a bit mean to exclude him from a holiday.

It depends on too many factors like where the honeymoon is, whether the son wants to go, how long it’s for, the son’s relationship with his dad. Also some kids suffer quite a lot when parents divorce and I wouldn’t want a child to feel abandoned or a lower priority just because a parent has remarried.

in my case, if I got married again I might do a UK city break or spa with my new husband for a couple of days but I wouldn’t do anything too expensive or interesting without inviting my kids and they could decline. At the moment they don’t like spending time with their dad (they do about 5 overnights a year with him) so to leave them for too long while I go on a big holiday wouldn’t feel right to me.