Don’t know what to think now

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I have been chatting to someone online for about two weeks now, I began to think I have no idea who I’m talking too, so I decided to ask him if he would like to meet up, seeing as it didn’t look like he was going to ask, he said yes and gave me his number, today we were messaging and apparently he accidentally messaged me “be there in 5 X” I messaged back “be where?” He told me the message was supposed to be for his daughter, but I’m not so sure, am I right to be thinking he’s married or seeing someone?

Well you'll never know! Could be anyone! I do think it's best to meet early on though, otherwise you could be wasting a lot of time on someone you won't click with in person.

This is what I was thinking, but he just seemed happy to be pen pals, so I made a move.

Could have been anyone, doesn't mean he's married.

i just thought it was odd to accidentally message me 🤷‍♀️

Sounds a bit odd

Has he got a daughter? Anyway, I expect he's lying.

Yeah he has, well he says he has

Bit fishy.....

So he’s messaging you, and you’ve not met but you want to police who else he meets or dates? The message could be to his daughter, or a date, or even his wife. None of that is any of your business. He probably just clicked on the last person he messaged in error.
You’re looking far too deeply into this.

Could be his daughter. Could be someone else he's chatting to or meeting. You haven't met yet - many on OD are messaging several people at a time. It's the way it often is, unless you've discussed otherwise. But why would any of you agree to that before even meeting?

I'd be annoyed if he lied, though. There's no reason to. Unless it turns out that he's married or in a relationship. Then he's an arsehole.

Was it FB messenger/WhatsApp/text message? Some formats make it much easier to accidentally message the wrong person, especially if you’ve got more than one chat on the go. In any case, I don’t think there is enough in that message for me to call whether it’s to his daughter or another woman. What I would question is why your instincts are telling you to be suspicious on so little evidence, and what else you’re subconsciously picking up.

Where have I said I want to police who else he meets or dates??
my concern is he’s married or in a relationship, of course it’s my business if he’s a potential partner!

It was WhatsApp, I just find it odd he seems to want to be pen pals.