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Do other couples share both cars rather than having one each?

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OhMyGodItsSoGood · Yesterday 09:26

I saw a post on Instagram that was astonished about a set up where a married couple don't have their “own” cars but instead both just share two cars and take whichever one they want when they need it. Monsters, apparently.

I was astonished at the poster’s astonishment because this is our set up and it genuinely didn’t occur to me that it was weird or unusual. We have two cars between us, one big, one smaller, and we just take whichever is more suitable at the time (usually whoever has the kids takes the bigger car). We don’t have or think of them as belonging to either of us.

Opened up a discussion in the WhatsApp chat with my pals. They all think it’s weird too and I am a bit 🤯

I mean it’s not a big deal, it works for us, I’m not upset or worked up. I’m just curious as to whether any other couples prefer this set up?

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ShetlandishMum · Yesterday 19:52

Many can't afford two cars... not that hard to understand really.

justasking111 · Yesterday 19:52

I have a little mini cooper convertible I love, he hates occasionally nags me to get some electric hatchback. Nah. He doesn't like driving the mini says it's too small and uncomfortable.

He has a huge 4x4 diesel SUV which is automatic. I don't want to drive it.

So peace reigns.

CoffeeIsMyLove · Yesterday 19:53

We have our own cars, I can use my husbands precious EV sometimes, but he doesn't use my 15 year old banger because he hates how it isn't as nice & easy to drive as his.

ImWearingPantaloons · Yesterday 20:13

My husband isn’t insured on my car as he can’t fit in it!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · Yesterday 20:24

Dh uses my small car a lot more than I do - for short journeys I use our very good public transport, which is free with my Wrinkly Pass.

His is older and bigger plus a diesel, which attracts the ULEZ charge, but it’s very comfortable - and economical with fuel - so we keep it for long journeys.

popcornlova · Today 13:37

We have our own car. But his is shiny and new so I do take his keys when going to the shop etc daily we do use our own but the option is there for either. Mine is slightly bigger so we used it for a recent trip with kids & prams etc

PissOffJeffrey · Today 13:39

DH & I each have our own car but do also “swap” if that makes more sense. Mine is bigger & higher off the ground so more suitable for DH taking MIL to appointments in, for example.

DS will also swap cars with me sometimes if he has extra passengers or luggage (his is a small 2 door).

But basically that’s still my car. I still take that one when I leave home by default unless we’ve made other plans.

JaneIves · Today 13:47

We share 2 cars. The EV is our commuting car - both shift workers and we work around each other. Other car is non EV so use that for longer journeys etc.

Umidontknow · Today 13:56

Depends how the cars are paid for I guess, I pay for mine and he pays for his (a van) both welcome to use each others but we would ask first

Walker1178 · Today 13:59

Technically we have a car each but we have a long 2 car driveway where one blocks in the other. Unless we need both cars we’ll each just take whichever one is at the front

MammaPenny · Today 14:14

We have a large SUV and a compact SUV. My husband works away during the week, he’ll take the smaller one as I’ve got the children so it does feel like the bigger one is mine and the smaller one is his. We’ll both drive whichever makes the most sense on the weekend if we’re not together though, for example if I’m taking our oldest to one party and he’s taking the little one to another, he’ll take the big car to save faffing with the car seat.

I’ve never really thought about this before 😂

Emmz1510 · Today 14:19

I’m not a driver and my OH is, so no direct experience. But I don’t think either set up is odd or unusual. Just depends what works for the family.

Nogimachi · Today 14:33

Sane setup here, we use the cars interchangeably depending on the type of journey. I always thought that was normal.

Dr13Hadley · Today 14:34

We have a 7 yo diesel that is technically DHs and he uses it for long work trips or long distance family trips and “my” car which is a newer smaller
EV that I mainly use for school runs, going to work (10 min drive) etc. We both use either car depending on what the journey is for but DHs car is in his name and mines in my name.

FireHorse2026 · Today 14:51

We have our own cars and very rarely drive each others. DH will drive mine if we've an extra passenger and someone needs to squash between the kids car seats but that's it really. Oh and when we do long trips where DH will drive my bigger car and I sit in the back with the baby.

Going out day to day it would be unthinkable to both of us to take the others car!

Leavin4 · Today 15:22

Yes we do the same as you, but everything comes out of one joint account and when we first got together neither of us had a car so they were both joint purchases. Actually both are officially in my name as I had the better credit at the time, but they are both considered ours.

SparkyBlue · Today 15:51

MotherofPufflings · Yesterday 09:32

We have the same arrangement as you but I think it stems from us initially having no car, then sharing one family-sized car, then getting a smaller second car for commuting. So we've always swapped cars around depending on who was doing what.

I think people now generally enter a relationship with their own car so it carries on like this.

Edited

Exact same situation here

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