How long is “soon”?

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Basically my partner said he wasn’t ready till like next year to try for a baby. I’m ready whenever but I respect his choice.

my sister came round today with her baby and I sent him a photo saying “can’t we have one now?” (It obviously was banter and he knows that)

he then replied saying “awww, soon babes”
and I replied saying “what’s soon” and he said “I don’t know, it means soon”?

😂😂😂😂😂

How old are you both and how long have you been together

He’s already told you next year

I know that and I’m happy with that but the soon just felt like sooner then over a year? Or is it not?

It means not now, soon. It will be soon next time you ask every time you ask, then one day you'll think 'Sod this' and leave him.

He'll be a father with the next woman he meets. Probably within 15 months of you dumping him.

What are you trying to say exactly?

What are you trying to say exactly?
Take control of the situation. If you want a baby before you're 30 (or whatever), plan some sort of timeline.

Next year is soon.
How old are you both and how long have you been together?
Unless you are moving into the peri menopause there is no hurry. Don't rush

Oh, exactly! That’s what I said to him. As I’m 30 next May. I know people may think that’s still early but for me I want to not be pregnant any later. I did say I want to have a positive before I’m 30. Obviously it depends on my body and if I get caught. But wanted to be trying at least before I’m 30. I know he said next year but with him saying soon I didn’t know if it meant any different X

How long have you been with him? And do you have plans to marry too?

I’m sure I recognise your username. Aren’t you the poster who has posted about this before, you have young kids already to someone else, aren’t in a great financial situation and this is a fairly new relationship?

I would not leave it too long.
After 35 your fertility plummets. If you leave it until then to start trying to conceive, then you are risking leaving it too late.

I say this as someone who knows quite a few women who have had their first child at 38 + or had a baby in their mid-40s, but I know couples who haven't despite several rounds of IVF.

Depends on the person could mean a few months could mean never and he's just telling you what you want to hear to shut you up

I think you need to talk seriously about this, hints and digs aren’t the way. What exactly is his reservation? Ask him when does he envisage you having a baby (as opposed to trying for one). What does he need to change in your current situation before he will feel ready.

I never know why people put up with being fobbed off about marriage and having children. They are massive things to deny someone who wants it. You need to be on the same page. He shouldn’t be treating it as a reward for your waiting.

The OP has kids already, multiple posts about the same thing :-)
OP, just talk to him and make a plan.

This i don't mean this nasty but if your already nearly 30 you aren't no spring chicken anymore don't let him waste your time if he actually doesn't want kids

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You have a 5 y.o. and a 2 y.o. from a previous relationship, so your current relationship is a fairly new one. You are only 30. I'd be waiting a few years (e.g. 2) before thinking about a half-sibling for your DC.

Is it soon, like... until we save £xxxx. Or is it soon....wave a vague arm, and drop the subject?

Bloody hell why more OP?

And strange how on that thread she says the youngest child is 3, but on other threads she says the youngest turned 2 a few months ago. 🙄

My mistake, I assumed first baby!

Jesus 🤦‍♀️ why do some people collect babies with each man they meet

Me too. I assumed it was a couple with no children, been living together a few years, life ticking along quite nicely...
but I looked in Advanced search.

"FlipARock · Today 18:02
I’m sure I recognise your username. Aren’t you the poster who has posted about this before, you have young kids already to someone else, aren’t in a great financial situation and this is a fairly new relationship?"

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Find another hobby

that is a regular post on MN. The time isn't right but it is when a new gf/wife is involved