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Six-year-old offered catch-up tutoring despite teacher saying she is on track

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Floriaflan · 30/04/2026 19:39

I work full time in a pretty full on job, as does my husband. We both work long hours. My child is just turned 6 and goes to an offsted outstanding school which has quite the emphasis on academic results.

Child has 5 different types of homework per week including spellings, reading, maths etc. Each one has a different platform or portal, including submitting homework sheets via teams, and then weekly she has a spelling “test” (they say it’s an assessment, not a test, but it’s a test). Plus 3 x reading books per week.

we do as much homework with her as we can but it’s difficult as she does after school clubs and then we have about 90 mins at home which is dinner, bath, bed. So to cram in homework is often short time. She tends to do it over weekends.

we got an email today saying she had been chosen for some free school tutoring as she has been “identified as someone who could benefit from catch up”. we had parents evening about 3 weeks ago and her teacher told us to keep reading with her but she’s exactly where she expects her to be

i feel a bit blind sighted by it tbh. I am quite overwhelmed by the sheer volume of school admin including all the various homework requirements, and also quite sad that she’s falling behind. There doesn’t feel like much more we can do given work hours etc.

husband does his fair share, we are very even

has anyone been through this?

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Givealittlebit · 30/04/2026 19:43

That is an insane amount of homework (&pressure!) on a child so young. Is it a private school?

exhaustedandoverit · 30/04/2026 19:45

Good lord that’s a lot! Is it a state school? My 7 & 8 year old children get zero homework unless it’s specifically to practice something. They access TT rock stars and have reading books but it’s quite relaxed.
If you feel tuition would give you more time for your child to relax at home then maybe but if it’s in addition to the work at home and more hours then I don’t think I’d take them up on it. So much pressure at 6.

cramptramp · 30/04/2026 19:48

Maybe they think she’s capable of doing better and just want to give her a hand. Don’t see it as a criticism of you.

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Arlanymor · 30/04/2026 19:50

A six year old has five lots of homework a week? Wow. That’s awful isn’t it?

Pinkissmart · 30/04/2026 19:52

Ask them if they prioritise homework over her wellbeing

Floriaflan · 30/04/2026 19:53

cramptramp · 30/04/2026 19:48

Maybe they think she’s capable of doing better and just want to give her a hand. Don’t see it as a criticism of you.

I think my issue is that I think “better than what?!”

isn’t the point of school at this age to be enjoyable learning. It feels like it’s putting a huge amount of pressure on them to be so small. She only turned 6 last month so has been having this much homework since 5

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IdaGlossop · 30/04/2026 19:53

I would trust the school on the catch-up sessions. They can't do any harm.

That amount of homework for a six-year old, plus three reading books, is absurd. Something to question with the school, I think.

Floriaflan · 30/04/2026 19:53

exhaustedandoverit · 30/04/2026 19:45

Good lord that’s a lot! Is it a state school? My 7 & 8 year old children get zero homework unless it’s specifically to practice something. They access TT rock stars and have reading books but it’s quite relaxed.
If you feel tuition would give you more time for your child to relax at home then maybe but if it’s in addition to the work at home and more hours then I don’t think I’d take them up on it. So much pressure at 6.

It’s a state school

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Clefable · 30/04/2026 19:53

That amount of homework at that age is nuts. We get a reading book, occasional spelling lists and that’s it.

LeticiaMorales · 30/04/2026 19:55

Floriaflan · 30/04/2026 19:53

It’s a state school

That's astonishing. What kind of state school puts this kind of pressure on a small child?

LeticiaMorales · 30/04/2026 19:56

Arlanymor · 30/04/2026 19:50

A six year old has five lots of homework a week? Wow. That’s awful isn’t it?

Isn't it? I've never come across this.

justasmalltownmum · 30/04/2026 19:57

This is crazy level of homework. Our state school gives none and the private gives maths and English once a week.

Parker231 · 30/04/2026 19:57

Floriaflan · 30/04/2026 19:53

I think my issue is that I think “better than what?!”

isn’t the point of school at this age to be enjoyable learning. It feels like it’s putting a huge amount of pressure on them to be so small. She only turned 6 last month so has been having this much homework since 5

Homework is optional in primary. I would stick with the reading but ignore the rest.

LeticiaMorales · 30/04/2026 19:57

Mine left primary more than 20 years ago, but all they got was a reading book, spelling lists and times tables to learn. Not even every week!

cantgardenintherain · 30/04/2026 19:58

I think it would be more enlightening to discuss her with them than with us.

ClassicalQueen · 30/04/2026 19:59

Is it phonics catch up? I run them in my school for children who are at risk of not passing their Phonics Screening Check. Children can be where they need to be but it can still be challenging. Don’t think of it as a criticism but as a helping hand.

Floriaflan · 30/04/2026 20:00

Parker231 · 30/04/2026 19:57

Homework is optional in primary. I would stick with the reading but ignore the rest.

But now she is behind and being offered a tutor?!

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CDTC · 30/04/2026 20:01

My DD is in year 6 and she has 2 sheets of homework a week. I'm aware she has minimal compared to some other kids but there is a stark contrast in what she does and what your little one is expected to do! (And DD is learning at a deeper level for most subjects).That is SO much work for your DD. I'd decline personally and explain why.

Floriaflan · 30/04/2026 20:01

cantgardenintherain · 30/04/2026 19:58

I think it would be more enlightening to discuss her with them than with us.

Well, yes, obviously I will do that. I was also asking actual parents for their own experiences. 🙄

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Roads · 30/04/2026 20:02

I'm going to be honest I'm a primary teacher and I would genuinely consider moving my child if they attended such a school. This is way too much pressure and I would hate to think how stressful it will become as she gets older. If they are hot housing to this extent at 6 what is year 6 going to be like.

tnorfotkcab · 30/04/2026 20:04

Floriaflan · 30/04/2026 20:00

But now she is behind and being offered a tutor?!

I'll bet she isn't behind at all....

What reading can she do? She'll need to "pass" this or similar at end of year... https://spaces.schoolspider.co.uk/uploads/88/page/363613_page_file.pdf?ofn=paper-2.pdf

What kind of sums can she do?

Can she add 7+3 or 6+4? Can she do 11+5?

https://spaces.schoolspider.co.uk/uploads/88/page/363613_page_file.pdf?ofn=paper-2.pdf

tnorfotkcab · 30/04/2026 20:05

What did her reception report say about working towards/meeting/working beyond age related expectations?

Floriaflan · 30/04/2026 20:07

tnorfotkcab · 30/04/2026 20:05

What did her reception report say about working towards/meeting/working beyond age related expectations?

We didn’t receive a report, but at parents evening a few weeks ago the teacher said she was “where she needed to be”

she’s great at maths, but she can be very shy and doesn’t like reading books with people she doesn’t know well. She is even shy at reading with her own teacher who told us she just needs to read louder so the teacher can hear her

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tnorfotkcab · 30/04/2026 20:10

Floriaflan · 30/04/2026 20:07

We didn’t receive a report, but at parents evening a few weeks ago the teacher said she was “where she needed to be”

she’s great at maths, but she can be very shy and doesn’t like reading books with people she doesn’t know well. She is even shy at reading with her own teacher who told us she just needs to read louder so the teacher can hear her

Can she read words like jug, bed, hat?

Can she read words like: That, cart, free etc

Can she read words like queen, shirt, or Yellow ?

Floriaflan · 30/04/2026 20:10

Here is all the homework:

  • English homework - reading comprehension, set on teams and due every Friday 9am
  • spellings list - posted to phonics group
  • maths homework - via mymaths set weekly due Friday 9am
  • spelling assignment on spelling shed and games
  • english homework - grammar, punc, spelling - set on spelling shed due Friday 9am
  • reading books - book changeover 2-3 x per week
  • bug club - additional reading
  • numbots - additional maths
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