Noisy neighbours woke me up at 4.45am

[Poodlelove]

My neighbours are noisy , 6 of them in one house , 3 generations.

Teenage children.

I just want the odd lie in , but they regularly go out as early as 5am .

They shout from the car to someone in the house , they seem to slam their ten door car , we can hear this at the back of the house and the end of our garden.

They come back late , they are awake until 1am.

Every morning they are shouting from the house to another family member in the garden , as early as 6am.

Last week they woke me up going out at 4.45 am .I was so tired at work as I didn't manage to get back to sleep.

My friend told me to just move.

My husband has specifically asked me not to speak to them about it.

What would you do?

I think it depends.
What sort of a relationship do you have with them ?
If you are normal, friendly neighbours who get on, then letting them know how much you are being disturbed would make sense. People don't realise how noisy things like slamming car doors several times and calling back to someone in the house are, and how the noise travels when they are up and about, and they forget others will be asleep.

Or, is there a change in circumstances ?

Or, are you already in conflict with them ?

Or, are they new ?

It all affects how sensible (or otherwise) it might be to have a chat.

Thank you for the reply. They are friendly but always in a rush , the mum dreads the weekends she said because she is the kids taxi.

I just don't understand why at midnight that they cannot wait until they are in the house before shouting / talking loudly.

They have always been a bit noisy but I thought with the children growing up that this would improve.

I could speak to them but my husband thinks that it would just be too awkward and we would regret saying something .

I can’t see how approaching them in a friendly manner would cause any problems. I’m part of a large (loud) family. Adult dc still at home, loads of cars between us, shift workers who come and go at different times etc (I hope you’re not my neighbour 🙈) and spend my life reminding my family to be quiet when in the street. Dh used to come home with the radio blaring thinking no one could hear it if the windows were up 🙄 sometimes people need reminded not to be twats.

Sorry for your trouble - take care to search around the topic as I read making a verbal complaint can count as a "dispute with neighbours" which you may have to declare on a property information form during a house sale

Just say to them. My neighbour had to say to her neighbour about their early starts for the gym in the mornings. Car doors slamming etc. that may or may not have been me. There was no fall out and more care was taken in future.

Ear plugs.

Just make a note of times and dates and invidents.

Don't speak to them about it, just contact your local council, give them the details which they will keep confidential.

They should get a warning or a noise abatement notice, and threatened with fines etc which should stop the noise.

They just need to keep their mouths and car doors shut.

I’m a bit shocked teenagers are up and going out with their family at 5 or 6am. Must be a very different breed of teenagers to mine! Where on earth do they go at that time? We only go out at that time once or twice a year to go on holiday!

Someone always come on with that pathetic old chestnut about a neighbour dispute. Its not a neighbour dispute until it escalates to a paper trail and involves official bodies such as the police, council or social services. Next there will be someone on asking if they are renting.

We have multiple generations of family colonising our street (currently in 5 consecutive houses, and buying up more as they become available). They seem to live their entire lives out in the street and all of them, from 3yo to ~70yo, are unable to speak at anything lower than a roar.

I highly recommend a combination of a fan running in your bedroom all night, and earbuds designed for sleeping, playing music/podcast/white noise etc of your choice.

Wouldn’t it be better to just have a friendly chat?

Just talk to them. Despite what you read on the internet, most people are reasonable.

They have probably got in a habit of doing all these noisy things and don’t realise the impact.

It would be madness to spend your life tired when potentially one conversation might fix it.

Does it really matter if the conversation is awkward? As long as it’s not confrontational both sides will get over it.

Colonising?

Exactly this, they probably don’t even realise.

Practically, try ear plugs as a first move, or try white noise.

Don't talk to them if your DH isn't on board as then you'll have two problems not one! Try to talk to him again about it if you really feel moved to speak to them.

What were they doing at 4.45? And why are they up at 6, is more than one going to work at that time?

It’s worth a go talking to them but people like them tend not to change. I’d be inclined to move and as has been pointed out, don’t make a complaint because you will have to declare this on the TA6 form.

Oh mate, it's 5.30am in the UK, why are you even awake let alone nitpicking strangers on the internet?

I'll do a deal with you - you get my neighbours to stop fucking yelling and screaming at each other outside my window all night every night, and I'll reconsider any derogatory terms I use to describe them and their behaviour.

”mate” you sound very strange? It may be 5.30 but still no excuse! I’m not nitpicking, your words seemed offensive and now I can see they were!

You’re not dealing with anyone “mate”, your neighbours are obviously making you very irrational!

Try treating people respectfully and you may get better results if you speak to them about the issues.

My 5.30 was a cup of coffee in my silent garden, watching the sun rise and the birds in and out of the bird boxes. That’s why I’m awake!

Have a good day!

‘Hi Marge, you couldn’t ask your lot to keep the noise down early in the morning and late at night when they’re coming in and leaving the house? I’m a terrible sleeper and once I’m woken I can’t drift off again.’

So what do you think will happen if OP makes an anonymous call to her local authority? The LA will want details of everything - they won't be satisfied with a phone call.

I have neighbours like this and they would not respond well to a ‘chat’ - they would immediately become defensive becsue they see nothing wrong with their behaviour, it’s how they have always lived. Mine have zero respect for themselves and their own property let alone someone else/s. It’s utter hell but we can’t afford to move so are stuck with it. I have made reports to school, social work, environmental health, sspca and the police over the years. Not a single complaint has been acted upon successfully.

Im sorry OP

Nothing will bloody happen, it’s never does. OP as a decent citizen will be totally unsupported by every authority going and these people will continue as they are.

Gosh was it like that when you moved in ?

I just don't understand how people can be up so early and go to bed so late , and have no consideration for anyone else in the neighborhood.
I don't mind children playing but this is adults mainly , who cannot talk quietly or close a car door without almost causing an earth quake

And I know all of their business because I hear it word for word.
I can hear them shouting about being too long in the toilet, how they need a poo and why didn't they wash their hair whilst in the shower.

Yes our house is detached too. Adults 😔 not university students , a family of 6 .
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