Feeling angry and low for half the month, burnout or hormones?

[Mum2HC]

Burnout/Perimenopause or something else?

I am 36 (3 kids 8, 6, 3 in autumn) and spend half of every month just pretty frustrated and snapping at my husband. I am the high earner but also a full time mum as 2 year old can’t start pre school till Jan. my husband works full time, I WFH around her naps and MIL has her 3 hours a week.

I have 2 good weeks a month and then 1 ok week and then 1 rubbish week where I hate my husband and feel pretty down.

Can anyone help me?! Am I burnt out, is it just a stage or do I need to see a gp?!

Periods/ovulation extremely regular as always.
symptoms are for half the month just feeling angry frustrated, every single thing my husband does annoys me then I get my period and the world is relatively ok again!!

thsnk you xx

I wish I had answers. I don't, but I am in exactly the same boat as you and I am wondering the same. Interested to hear any wisdom from others

I'm the same and have been for a couple of years. On HRT and it maybe helps slightly. Some months it's irritability / anger, other months it's anxiety or crying. It's a predictable pattern and it gets me really down that I feel I have no control over.
i also have a very stressful job and juggling home life is tough so sure that doesn't help.

Same for me, sometimes it can be anxiety but normally anger/irritable.

how old are you if you don’t mind me asking?

@Mum2HC I'd agree- mainly anger but anxiety every now and again. I'm 46

It sounds like hormones if it is changing week to week. Best to go to a doctor and discuss. Though I have no idea how you are able to work from home with a toddler, even with naps! It must be hard.

Edited to add, I had burnout once and it was more my brain was unable to process any information and a feeling of dread rather than anger (more gloom than nervous anxiety). The anger was definitely hormonal for me (early 40s).

You are over tired and stressed . You are the high earner and a full time mum wfh. Something has to guve and its going to be your sanity. Whrb do you get down time? Your husband does on hus commute what about you? What about creche ?

But for half the month I genuinely feel fine! But I know it is not ideal. I guess I just need to survive until January when pre school can start :) I own my own business so the hours are very flexible.

I am glad that for half a month you are feeling fine, 50% of the time you arent. The inbalance of you having 2 full time jpbs and zero down time would drive anyone to exhaustion hormones or not. I am a huge fan of HRT. Its 8 months to january, can you access childcare