Help me stay sane at work!

[IWasTangoed]

I have serious work anxiety. I started the role about 4 months ago and have never been so micromanaged in my life. You can't even breathe without being told you are doing it incorrectly! I have had many performance meetings with my boss where the advice often contradicts itself and no one can tell me where I might be going wrong (If I am). It's weird.

I have tons of experience, am more qualified than anyone in my department and was in my last job for ages with consistentpositive feedback. Also others have left citing similar issues with management so I know it isn't just me.

The problem is, I need to stay in this role for another year for a mortgage. I am planning to move once I get this and don't want an interim job (it is also very hard to find the right job where I currently live).

I am trying to bite my tongue at work but I would really like to scream. I don't want to launch a grievance, as the 'new person' it really isn't worth it.

How do I stay sane for one year and reduce my anxiety? All tips welcome!

That sounds like a nightmare! I just read this article and found it really helpful. Gotta love the Stoics.

How to use Stoicism to master your emotions at work - Fast Company https://share.google/gtFnmf4CQgpepbJGv

Thank you for the reply. I put it into practice the other day before going into a meeting and it did really help. I calmly listened to what was being said and factually pointed out where I had met what was being asked of me (with evidence!) and then I guided the rest of the discussion. Took all the emotion out. My line manager was quiet and then left. I felt much more in control.

I don't know what they will come back with (I often get a late evening email🙄) but I will keep practicing my stoic approach!

If you get a late evening email do not read it or respond until the next business day. You need to set some boundaries.

Your phone was on charge/in another room
You were out for the evening
You dont accept work emails outside business hours
Etc