I love my partner he’s amazing and so lovely. He wants to have a baby and she do I (I already have one toddler). But I can’t help but be anxious about how it would work.
for context: I earn double his salary and we are both full time. Good thing is he has school holidays off as he works in education. The more negative thing is I WFH and in terms of makin adjustments in career for a new child. Only my job would be the one that could do this. The problem is I earn the most so we need my income to survive. He said he will get another job but I need him to be home as soon as his contracted day ends, which he doesn’t like doing, as he likes to work extra unpaid hours to show he’s keen. But realistically I need him home so I can finish my work day and hours.
my worries: my capacity is going to drop with another child and that’s eventually going to effect how I show up at work with energy etc. we don’t own a home and live in quite a run down area as it cheap. but it’s not the place I would want our children playing outside in . I question with an additional child how we gonna make a mortgage deposit to get out. Also for context I have the most savings which will naturally be dipped into to fund getting baby stuff etc.
I would love another child without all the worries it would be amazing to. but how is this doable without me taking a massive hit as selfish as it sounds.
has anyone else been the female breadwinner and how have you made it work especially as he’s not going to want to be a SAHD and can’t change hours?
Basically just need some advice and opinions.