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Did anyone else feel attractive for a few years, then lose confidence?

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PrettyEight · 18/04/2026 21:46

Did this happen to anyone else? I’m really struggling with my self confidence.

I was a really strange looking child, then became a very tall awkward teen and my features were very out of proportion. Everyone made fun of me I really was ugly. Suddenly at 16 I changed dramatically and was extremely pretty. It took me about 18 months to realise but looking back at photos there was a definite change I think I was so low confidence I didn’t realise ! From 18 though I really did and I felt so happy. At 24 though it just all faded. I suddenly looked tired at first, developed some eye puffiness, then it just all deteriorated and I looked strange again?
I wish I’d just stayed ugly . My confidence is so low. Why did I have eight years of being extremely attractive then it all
faded ? What happened. I wasn’t ill I just started to look awful again. I’d try and do the same make up and it didn’t sit right. Also my face became more uneven looking ? It really concerned me for a while but I think it was just aging?

Im feeling really sorry for myself and have been looking into surgery and treatments. Im 42 now and dont want to feel unhappy. I have the money to potentially get a few things done so may have a consultation but I can’t shake the feeling of wtf happened and why did I have eight pretty years ??

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ThatWaryLimePeer · 18/04/2026 22:02

It’s quite unusual for facial features to change to this extent.

CurdinHenry · 18/04/2026 22:04

I think my good years were 33-42

I'm looking into bleph and smas but meantime fillers and Botox

Try not to stress though we're all going to end up old

PeoplesNet · 08/07/2026 18:52

PrettyEight · 18/04/2026 21:46

Did this happen to anyone else? I’m really struggling with my self confidence.

I was a really strange looking child, then became a very tall awkward teen and my features were very out of proportion. Everyone made fun of me I really was ugly. Suddenly at 16 I changed dramatically and was extremely pretty. It took me about 18 months to realise but looking back at photos there was a definite change I think I was so low confidence I didn’t realise ! From 18 though I really did and I felt so happy. At 24 though it just all faded. I suddenly looked tired at first, developed some eye puffiness, then it just all deteriorated and I looked strange again?
I wish I’d just stayed ugly . My confidence is so low. Why did I have eight years of being extremely attractive then it all
faded ? What happened. I wasn’t ill I just started to look awful again. I’d try and do the same make up and it didn’t sit right. Also my face became more uneven looking ? It really concerned me for a while but I think it was just aging?

Im feeling really sorry for myself and have been looking into surgery and treatments. Im 42 now and dont want to feel unhappy. I have the money to potentially get a few things done so may have a consultation but I can’t shake the feeling of wtf happened and why did I have eight pretty years ??

These posts feel like they're designed to get middle-aged women thinking about plastic surgery or treatments.

*Because what happened between your mid-twenties and 42? So odd.

JulietOscarBoring · 08/07/2026 18:56

I suspect it’s your perception of your looks that changed rather than your actual level of attractiveness. Was there anything else going on in your life at the time that might have affected your confidence?

CurdinHenry · 08/07/2026 19:20

JulietOscarBoring · 08/07/2026 18:56

I suspect it’s your perception of your looks that changed rather than your actual level of attractiveness. Was there anything else going on in your life at the time that might have affected your confidence?

Oh no my eyelids literally went smoosh in the last few months. I actually couldn't believe it. It's borderline functional stuff at this point so I've convinced my husband on that basis (although he'll still be furious when I'm moaning about soreness after it's done and tbh I haven't told him I might need GA yet).

GoodHonest · 08/07/2026 19:22

CurdinHenry · 18/04/2026 22:04

I think my good years were 33-42

I'm looking into bleph and smas but meantime fillers and Botox

Try not to stress though we're all going to end up old

Take a look at Katie Price. You might want to grow old naturally.

CurdinHenry · 08/07/2026 20:11

GoodHonest · 08/07/2026 19:22

Take a look at Katie Price. You might want to grow old naturally.

Most women in the public eye have some work done. Absolutely fair play to those who would rather stay close to nature I can see there would be a lot of peace in that but ageism in real whether we like it or not and I have to stay employed for the next 25 years or so.

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