Did anyone else feel attractive for a few years, then lose confidence?

[PrettyEight]

Did this happen to anyone else? I’m really struggling with my self confidence.

I was a really strange looking child, then became a very tall awkward teen and my features were very out of proportion. Everyone made fun of me I really was ugly. Suddenly at 16 I changed dramatically and was extremely pretty. It took me about 18 months to realise but looking back at photos there was a definite change I think I was so low confidence I didn’t realise ! From 18 though I really did and I felt so happy. At 24 though it just all faded. I suddenly looked tired at first, developed some eye puffiness, then it just all deteriorated and I looked strange again?
I wish I’d just stayed ugly . My confidence is so low. Why did I have eight years of being extremely attractive then it all
faded ? What happened. I wasn’t ill I just started to look awful again. I’d try and do the same make up and it didn’t sit right. Also my face became more uneven looking ? It really concerned me for a while but I think it was just aging?

Im feeling really sorry for myself and have been looking into surgery and treatments. Im 42 now and dont want to feel unhappy. I have the money to potentially get a few things done so may have a consultation but I can’t shake the feeling of wtf happened and why did I have eight pretty years ??

It’s quite unusual for facial features to change to this extent.

I think my good years were 33-42

I'm looking into bleph and smas but meantime fillers and Botox

Try not to stress though we're all going to end up old

These posts feel like they're designed to get middle-aged women thinking about plastic surgery or treatments.

*Because what happened between your mid-twenties and 42? So odd.

I suspect it’s your perception of your looks that changed rather than your actual level of attractiveness. Was there anything else going on in your life at the time that might have affected your confidence?

Oh no my eyelids literally went smoosh in the last few months. I actually couldn't believe it. It's borderline functional stuff at this point so I've convinced my husband on that basis (although he'll still be furious when I'm moaning about soreness after it's done and tbh I haven't told him I might need GA yet).

Take a look at Katie Price. You might want to grow old naturally.

Most women in the public eye have some work done. Absolutely fair play to those who would rather stay close to nature I can see there would be a lot of peace in that but ageism in real whether we like it or not and I have to stay employed for the next 25 years or so.

It’s worth remembering that other people see you more as a whole, they don’t zoom in on individual features you feel are too big or wonky. Lots of cautionary faces out there of people who’ve had work done and couldn’t stop and actually do look very weird - the massive lips etc. Don’t go there, you can’t get your natural face back once someone has messed with it.

How do eyelids go smoosh? Do you mean the topnstarted to hang over the eye lid part (where eye make up goes) because I was born with hooded eyes and always had them and think they look sexy. Opinions on that my vary but no-one sees a woman with hooded eyes and vomits in horror. I doubt even if the change was that sudden anyone would notice. Or did they literally like dissolve? I'm trying to guess what else smoosh means.

I just don't buy, short of a disfiguring disease or terrible accident someone's looks can change in such a short space of time to the extent they go from beautiful to ugly. A perception they have changed that radically is more a mental health thing.

E.gMy never full top lips almost disappeared over a year or so. I think I looked nicer with fuller lips but I don't think the difference was that extreme it radically altered me in the eyes of others. I just look a bit older.

I think it’s all in your mind than anything physical.

Honestly I've never given a flying Fuck about how people perceived my looks. I'm told I'm attractive I have no idea. Some photos i look good the others I look like the elephant man. Other people's opinions honestly don't matter to me.

I'm confident in myself as I know I'm funny and people likee for sure that's all the validation I need

When I think of my most attractive years, they were the years when I felt the happiest and the most excited about life.
i suspect the same is true for you OP. It’s very unlikely your looks would have faded so quickly without a significant medical event

There is lots of evidence that humans age in a sudden rush at around 44. For women, dropping oestrogen means a dropping face. I've recently started hrt (for bladder problems ugh) and the face is definitely looking brighter. Although the eyelids remain, sadly. Sag is definitely different from hooded.

It's definitely easier to not give a fuck when you are attractive...