How are you feeling after your child’s primary school allocation?

[Millie271]

If your child got their primary school allocation yesterday, how are you feeling about it?

I’m so unexpectedly emotional, I’ve never had this type of reaction to anything before!

My LO got in to our second choice school. It’s a wonderful school and we’re very lucky but it’s not what I was expecting (I wasn’t expecting to get any of our choices really but this one was particularly unexpected).

They won’t know anybody else which is bothering me - I know this probably won’t be an issue by October but it somehow still feels huge for them to be off to school at barely 4 knowing nobody at all.

At this rate I’m going to be a wreck by the time they leave nursery! I’ve not managed to do anything I should have since getting the email yesterday. Is it just me?

Don't be ridiculous. Most 4 year olds have started school not knowing anyone ever since schools were invented.

I got into my first choice.

I know loads of other kids going there - from nursery, other people I know locally.

I don’t feel it’s a huge step, but then my child has been at nursery 5 days a week since they were 9 months old - I’m not anticipating any issues with their settling in etc.

What are we supposed to have done since receiving the email? Where are you they don’t start till October?

OP I wouldn’t say I’ve been paralysed by emotion but it is emotional. My DS is still 3, I still think of him as a toddler and it seems crazy that he will be off to school in September.

And yes, while I know he will be fine, I’m also a bit sad for him that he will be the only one from his nursery going to his particular school. I suppose we are lucky in that our first choice was our closest school so we’ve all been able to think of it as “his school” for a long time, and we’ve prepared him for the fact that he’s going to make new friends who live near our house.

My DD started last year. She made lots of friends very quickly who we see outside of school too and loves her teachers. She will probably settle in easily having been in nursery!

Maybe it’s that I just lost a parent or that my first baby never got to start school. Don’t be a twat.

It sounds like your LO will settle well. It will be lovely to have lots of familiar faces.

Our LA say we don’t have to anything except accept the place with the school when they contact us. They start in September, I just meant that I’m sure it won’t feel so big by October!

What a nasty reply to a mum who is just anxious about her baby starting school. It’s very difficult to anticipate how children will cope - you had the opportunity to bring comfort and instead belittled.

Ours start the term after they turn 3 in Wales. Both of ours started not knowing anybody else. It’s very common and the teachers will be used to it.

By ‘anything’ I actually mean focus on work 😅

My LO is still 3 too and whilst I wish he had another year of nursery I know will be fine. I am just surprised at my reaction but maybe it’s misplaced emotion!

It’s a wonderful school but he’s never set eyes on it and we live pretty far away so it’s just a big adjustment all around. Probably going to have to change his siblings nursery, my working hours etc as it’s also completely in the wrong direction to my work. Will start working on him thinking of it as his school now we know though and I’m sure they’ll make friends quickly 🤞

I’m so sorry for the loss of your parent and that your first baby didn’t get to start school OP.

I also feel emotional that my DD won’t know anyone in her new school. However i know lots of others will be in this situation and they make friends quickly . I got my second place school and now can’t decide whether to go on the waiting list for first place or not.