I'm 38, one DD who is brilliant and I adore her. DH is currently retraining after a series of redundancies so I'm the breadwinner for the foreseeable. I'm also at a key point in my career and want to push for a promotion in the next year.
Logically I know one makes sense right now. Financially it would give us more flexibility. I'm not getting any younger. My husband has enough on his plate.
But I can't quite close the door and I don't fully understand why.
Part of it is this nagging feeling that she deserves a sibling. I have siblings and I'm close to them - I can't imagine life without them. But then I didn't start trying until my mid 30s, so here we are. And rationally I know it's no guarantee - my husband has a really difficult relationship with his sibling, so a built-in best friend is far from certain.
For those who chose one - do you regret it? Did the decision eventually feel peaceful or does it always carry a little grief?
For those who went for two despite difficult timing - was it worth it? How did you manage the career hit?
Just want to hear real experiences.