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Have you recovered from burnout?

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Holtome · 16/04/2026 13:33

Away from work? It's not that I need to recover to get back to work, I need to recover so I can live!

With hindsight I made a lot of mistakes, but at the time was surviving as best I could.

I had a job I loved, then lockdown happened and the world of work became very different. At the same time DH became very ill and after a year of horrendous pain, illness and treatment, died. I tried to cope by "keeping" busy, but lost all my drive and focus. My boss was brilliant and supportive, but colleagues felt they were carrying me. People I managed and had been really supportive of in their own personal crisises, started bitching about me and on one occasion made a complaint (which boss gave short shrift).

I felt I'd "lost the dressingroom" and a new start was needed, so I found another job, equally demanding and one the old me would have loved, but I still couldn't find my focus and in the end decided to resign/retire becuaee injust wasnt perfoming.

My plan was to recover and devote myself to my hobby, and my neglected house and garden, but I'm having the same problem at home as I did at work. I just can't find any motivation for anything. I know house and garden might not sound exciting, but these are things I once really loved and getting my teeth into renovating would have excited me once.

It's been a long time now. It could be partly menopause, but I tried HRT, it didn't help with focus or motivation (it did help with sleep) and the side effects from progesterone were horrendous so I stopped that.

Now, I have weeks when I build a routine, stick to it and am very productive, but as soon as the routine is broken (eg my Dad had an A&E visit, so I missed an exercise class), that's it, the week is done and I spend it all doing "nothing".

Obviously I know what I "should" do, I just can't make myself do it.

OP posts:
bloodredfeaturewall · 16/04/2026 14:39

you didn't do 'nothing' you spend time recuperating.

it's possible to recover but requires exploring if there are underlying issues (i.e. vit deficiencies, thyroid...)

GOODCAT · 16/04/2026 20:14

To recover I would focus less on the need to be productive and more on what you need to be healthy. Essentially that means rest, good food, checking you are not deficient in iron, vitamins etc, get outdoors, exercise, see people, do something a bit creative but easy. Plenty of balance and no hurry, so time to just be and truly relax.

With burnout you have to reset from that drive to do so much that you can't handle it to a normal balanced life. You will have lost sight of what balance is because you are not recovered.

You still have a lot in your plate with grief, Menopause and recovering from burnout. If you were your best friend, you would say take your time and be kind to yourself

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