Urgh. Single, independent woman and find myself needing to ask for help

[FeelingSadToday1]

I have a washing machine with dryer stacked on top. The washing machine is plugged in behind the machine. It has just stopped working and I suspect I have done something to the plug whilst pushing the filter into the dryer (knocked it backwards slightly). There is no way I can fix this by myself as both machines need pulling out (it's next to a cupboard and I cannot get my hand behind it).

I have people I can ask to do this, it isn't a problem, it is the annoyance of having to ask!

Anybody else feel like this or do I need to accept I am not able to do everything by myself?

A common problem with asking for help, is having people swoop in to lecture you on how they would do it. Which can be a delicate situation ("Well if you don't want my help .....")

I suspect it probably happens less to men.

I hate to admit it, but I think you are spot on about women generally being spoken down to!

TBH I hate it too, but needs must sometimes and I let it go over my head, and steer them back to my original plan - somehow. 😊

A little bit of thinking can do a lot of moving.

@FeelingSadToday1 I get it. As a widow and SA survivor I hate having anyone in my house. I can and will do everything myself whilst knowing I really can’t. Drives my therapist utterly mad. Doesn’t stop me trying though. Some good suggestions to try for yourself to fix your machine stack problem.

Thank you to all the replies who understand rather than the earlier snarky ones.

It’s done. I had to ask my neighbour to pull it out (he really struggled so I would have had zero chance) but I insisted on reaching in/around to flip the switch. I got my head stuck! 🤣🤣 my earrings caught on the strap holding the tumble dryer onto the machine as I tried to pull out 🤣🤣 but it’s all sorted and the machine is working it’s way through the bedding.

Thank you to all my fellow independent women 💪

Having to ask for help from a MAN, presumably.

Yes this, it sounds a heavy and a 2 person job, give yourself a break.

(he really struggled so I would have had zero chance)

It's not a dig, but I wouldn't think that ....

Glad you got it sorted, OP.
I completely understand where you're coming from. I absolutely hate having to ask for help with anything as my upbringing led me to feel ashamed for doing so. Not saying that's the case with you, but I do understand.Plus there isn't really anyone to ask either, but that's another story.

It is honestly fine to ask for help nobody apart from yourself is going to judge you, glad to see it is sorted.