My dd 17 has struggled a lot with health issues for the last year. We are not 100% sure why she has had cardiology appointments which have found potential issues with heart rythym and a heart murmur - as far as I understand nothing massively dangerous but enough that she is struggling day to day with fainting dizziness and extreme weakness and tiredness. The appointments are still ongoing she has an echo in a couple of weeks then a follow up after that. She has started medication in the last few weeks to slow her heart a little and reduce paliptations.
All year she has struggled back and forth to college she is only In three days a week for her subjects but she’s extremely tired , weak and basically ends up collapsed in bed the days she’s home.
now though her mental health has been badly affected by all of this she is extremely depressed and anxious and just crying all the time dreading the days.
She is my third child to go through that college and honestly I’ve never got too involved it’s about an hour from our home on buses etc (the closest one) and until now she has managed by resting and she seemed ok and categorically told us she didn’t need help.
the last few weeks I’ve been extremely concerned her mental health is awful now I contacted the gp but the earliest appointment they could give was for another 3 weeks away.
last night it just all collapsed she started having panic attacks because she heard a sound that sounded a bit like her alarm clock. She was uncontrollably crying for hours saying some quite concerning things. And I just felt like I needed to step in and take control so i told her she was not to go in today that I was calling the college and that I was calling the gp to try and get a more urgent appointment. I’ve no idea if this was the right thing to do but I honestly can’t think of anythign else.
I am calling the college today - she has exams in May she did very well in her mocks and tbh even if she hadn’t I’m really not worried about grades at this point. But she wants to sit the exams. Can i ask if they can send work home for the last few weeks and my husband can take time of work for the days of the exams to drive her in? Or is that not something they are likely to agree to?
This is totally out of my realm of experience so any advice on what to say to the college would be really appreciated !