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School says autistic child is on track, but does this work suggest otherwise?

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AnOldLeodensian · 14/04/2026 09:11

Ok, school is telling me that my child (diagnosed autistic) is performing at the right academic level so does not need further support.

So can anybody tell me how old/what year group they think he’s in based on this small but typical standard of work?

For context - the instructions were to write a couplet using the words bake and cake, his brother Austin likes to bake, and I showed him videos explaining couplets, explained them to him verbally, and showed him examples. This is the result:

School says autistic child is on track, but does this work suggest otherwise?
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Famholiday2026 · 14/04/2026 10:12

Keep pushing. That’s no one’s idea of normal for year 4. They just don’t want to do the necessary interventions or they don’t know what they’re doing.

Savvysix1984 · 14/04/2026 10:17

nobody will know from one sample.
sounds like this was homework. If so end of the day, tired, demotivated possibly.

it’s quite common for autistic kids to struggle with hand writing and inference. Perhaps his reading, maths and his ability to demonstrate himself in class is much stronger.

Callmeback · 14/04/2026 10:22

Parents often look at handwriting and think their child is on track or not based on that but handwriting has nothing to do with content, intelligence, punctuation, clever word and technique choices etc. Handwriting 'tests' fine motor skills, hand eye coordination etc but not 'level'. I'm an adult and my handwriting is awful but I'm highly qualified and able.

While at a glance it looks like the OP's child isn't on track, you'd need to see several pieces, including longer ones to make any form of judgement and would have to take handwriting out of the equation.

OP you know your child best but the teacher knows the curriculum so it's best to work together on this. Perfectly fine to ask them to show you evidence that he's on track though e.g. their assessment sheets etc.

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SixSevenShutUp · 14/04/2026 10:39

Callmeback · 14/04/2026 10:22

Parents often look at handwriting and think their child is on track or not based on that but handwriting has nothing to do with content, intelligence, punctuation, clever word and technique choices etc. Handwriting 'tests' fine motor skills, hand eye coordination etc but not 'level'. I'm an adult and my handwriting is awful but I'm highly qualified and able.

While at a glance it looks like the OP's child isn't on track, you'd need to see several pieces, including longer ones to make any form of judgement and would have to take handwriting out of the equation.

OP you know your child best but the teacher knows the curriculum so it's best to work together on this. Perfectly fine to ask them to show you evidence that he's on track though e.g. their assessment sheets etc.

It's not just the handwriting, though. The spelling patterns, the lack of interesting vocabulary choices, the inability to echo the couplet form. These all show that the child is not performing at a year 4 level.

CurlsLDN · 14/04/2026 10:46

Hi op, my son struggles with handwriting (he is now 11 and your sons is much much clearer!)

his school referred him for an occupational therapy assessment, it was brilliant. They assessed his physical skills all over (walking, hopping, threading things through things, tying laces etc) and identified his weak areas.

in my sons case he is hyper mobile and meets many characteristics of dyspraxia and ADHD.

once the occ therapist had identified his struggles it was amazing the amount of things she had to offer to help him. this was in about year 3 and since then he

  • sits on a wobble cushion, because he needs that sensory feedback and balancing on the cushion gives him that so that his hands and mind can focus on the task
  • has a writing slope, which better supports his arm so his letters can be formed more correctly more often and spaced well. When his arm is tired he is more likely to do letters backward etc as he’s fatigued
  • uses stabilo easy grip pens and butterfly grips on his pencils, which help him have the right hand shape for decent writing
  • uses a laptop for any work that doesn’t need handwriting. This was difficult at first as like your son (and any child of their age) he found typing just as hard as writing, but there are some brilliant online programmes that schools can access that turn learning touch typing into a game. He got the hang of it within a year and now types very fast and precisely.

there is a lot of crossover between his writing performance and traits of ADHD - it’s all about propioception (probably spelled wrong, but their awareness and control of their body in space) and then lack of focus on precision and repeating work to correct mistakes.

my son is bright - he’s now in grammar school, but I’ve been told his handwriting will likely never improve. Using all the tools above unlocked all the clever stuff in his brain and gave him a way to communicate it without barriers.

sorry, long post, but all this is to say if you’re worried then discuss occupational therapy with school so you can find out what the keys are to unlock it for him.

oh and look up the DASH test, an occupational therapist can do it. It’s a recognised, standardised handwriting assessment that will show where your son’s abilities lie in comparison to national averages at different ages. It is useful to have a DASH result to show exam boards if he needs extra time later.
(that’s another point, my son was offered extra time or a scribe for his SATS and 11+, as we had these assessments and results)

anonymoususer9876 · 14/04/2026 11:01

This may be helpful as it’s what some teachers use to assess writing at end of year 4:
https://schools.westsussex.gov.uk/Pages/Download/a7b47deb-fc29-4fa4-bd30-a877c74db1ee/PageSectionDocuments

You can also search for year 4 writing examples to compare with your DS.

Assessments are done continuously in school on writing, so you’d need to see much more of his work rather than one small piece.

lostfather666 · 14/04/2026 11:19

Im disabled and write awful I know some autistic friends there's is neater than mine

Lunaticmess · 14/04/2026 11:20

As a parent of a late-diagnosed child with ASD, I understand your concerns, but there are bound to be differences between your DS and the kids in his year who are not autistic. The fact that he is completing tasks is a positive, and it looks like he's really thought about whether it should be 'd' or 'b' for bake and gone with the wrong option, which isn't that unusual. Every kid with ASD is unique, and what applies to one doesn't necessarily apply to others. In our case, DS1 flew through primary as a very high achiever, and problems only really came to light with PDA towards GCSEs, but he still passed them all despite having very poor handwriting (still does, but it hasn't particularly held him back, and he is allowed to use a laptop for college work). As his parent, you know him better than anyone, so perhaps ask what you can be doing at home to help support him, and keep expressing your concerns if you think he is falling behind.

curlyfriess · 14/04/2026 11:35

'He does find handwriting (and any kind of drawing/fine motor skill) very hard'.

DS was like this, have you considered dyspraxia? How is he with tying shoe laces, using a knife and fork, riding a bike, playing football? I'd also get him screened for dyslexia tbh, it's not unusual to have more than one ND condition.

DS has ASD and dyspraxia but I still thought this was Yr 1 hand writing. Are they not teaching cursive? I have no idea how they could say he's on track and keeping up with Yr 4 peers if that example is typical and you've seen other kids writing and it's much better. Do they not have the resources to put anything in place for him so they're just sweeping his difficulties under the carpet?

The DS did a free BBC touch typing course, he didn't enjoy it much but it was really good for him as it taught him how to type properly (not sure if schools do that much on typing properly) and he used a laptop for his work and exams as he got older. This i think:
https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/articles/z3c6tfr#zn9s3qt
I would also read to him every day and listen to him reading to you every day - and also talk about what he/you have read to make sure he is understanding it.

I would request a meeting with the class teacher and SENCO, ask about dyslexia and dyspraxia but don't expect them to be experts (or even know much based on my experience) even the SENCO. They might be able to screen for dyslexia though - not sure if that's something primary schools can do - and give their thoughts.

Dance Mat Typing for 7 - 11 year olds - BBC Bitesize

Learn how to touch type with the BBC Dance Mat Typing game. It's a fun introduction to touch typing game for kids and covers levels 1, 2, 3, 4.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/articles/z3c6tfr#zn9s3qt

Callmeback · 14/04/2026 11:36

SixSevenShutUp · 14/04/2026 10:39

It's not just the handwriting, though. The spelling patterns, the lack of interesting vocabulary choices, the inability to echo the couplet form. These all show that the child is not performing at a year 4 level.

Lots of year 4s would struggle with the concept of couplets. Yes the spelling is poor but that is still something that can't be judged on one piece.

Octavia64 · 14/04/2026 11:38

My dc had trouble with handwriting.

year 4 was about when we started him in a laptop. It’s nit a simple fix - we used nessy fingers to teach him to touch type (it’s a program for dyslexic kids to learn to type so it reinforces spellings).

Julietta05 · 14/04/2026 11:41

Y1

Burntt · 14/04/2026 12:28

What were his last SATs? Was he working towards or meeting expectations? Lots of time has passed since then but if it was working towards back then it’s confirmation you should be worried.

my experience of ND children in need of support but who are compliant and well behaved is they don’t get support. I was worried about my dd but kept being told she was one of the top in the class stop worrying. She then got working towards in her SATS and when I raised clearly she’s not ok they said well the help needs to go to those most in need and my dd is so well behaved they won’t be able to help her at all. Like need is only indicated by behaviour! I pulled her out and home Educate now. Her handwriting and spelling is still not great but she’s made massive progress learning at home. I’m dyslexic and dyspraxic and can’t spell to save my life, I have multiple experiences at school of teachers accusing me of cheating or copying because they didn’t believe I was a capable student due to my handwriting and spelling. So don’t just judge where your son is at on his handwriting, you said his maths is ok so you may just have a child with poor handwriting and spelling abilities- in this technology age that won’t hold him back as much as in previous years

AnOldLeodensian · 14/04/2026 12:58

Thank you all, there’s a lot to digest here.

He’s always been “working towards”, but the school has been giving me the impression that he’s very close to the right level for his age and I think he’s a lot more behind than that. We go back to school this week so I’ve emailed asking for a meeting with teacher and SENCO, let’s see what happens.

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Everydayisanew · 14/04/2026 13:04

SixSevenShutUp · 14/04/2026 09:15

Probably Year 1 or a high achieving Reception child.

This is where I would put it year 1

Everydayisanew · 14/04/2026 13:05

AnOldLeodensian · 14/04/2026 12:58

Thank you all, there’s a lot to digest here.

He’s always been “working towards”, but the school has been giving me the impression that he’s very close to the right level for his age and I think he’s a lot more behind than that. We go back to school this week so I’ve emailed asking for a meeting with teacher and SENCO, let’s see what happens.

Working towards could mean reception level in year 6 or year 5 working at year 6 or a year 6 working literally just below by a mark or so.

Everydayisanew · 14/04/2026 13:07

Ask for the raw scores and data

Octavia64 · 14/04/2026 13:09

AnOldLeodensian · 14/04/2026 12:58

Thank you all, there’s a lot to digest here.

He’s always been “working towards”, but the school has been giving me the impression that he’s very close to the right level for his age and I think he’s a lot more behind than that. We go back to school this week so I’ve emailed asking for a meeting with teacher and SENCO, let’s see what happens.

Working towards covers a vast area of ground. It just means he’s not at age related expectations but it could be anything from one mark below to can’t read write or do maths at all.

yes, talk to school.

Blimms · 14/04/2026 13:11

OP, I worked in primary education for many years, and I’ve seen children as old as Year 3 with handwriting like that.

AnOldLeodensian · 14/04/2026 13:54

Yes, I appreciate “working towards” doesn’t mean much - but I’ve believed the school when they tell me that he’s in line with his peers, like I’ve outright asked if he’s at the bottom of the class and been told he’s “towards the lower end of achievement” or that he’s “working in a small group with the children who need more support”. They’ve never said that actually he’s probably a couple of years behind where he should be (at least for English).

He does still reverse letters often so sounds like we need to look at dyslexia as well.

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Callmeback · 14/04/2026 15:37

Everydayisanew · 14/04/2026 13:05

Working towards could mean reception level in year 6 or year 5 working at year 6 or a year 6 working literally just below by a mark or so.

If they were significantly behind it wouldn't be 'working towards' - it would be 'pre key stage'.

UniqueGreyBeaker · 14/04/2026 15:55

I would say about year 1 level. If he’s year 2 I would be slightly concerned

Everydayisanew · 14/04/2026 16:13

Callmeback · 14/04/2026 15:37

If they were significantly behind it wouldn't be 'working towards' - it would be 'pre key stage'.

Some schools don’t. Working towards expected level isn’t a barometer of how far behind they are.

Callmeback · 14/04/2026 16:20

Everydayisanew · 14/04/2026 16:13

Some schools don’t. Working towards expected level isn’t a barometer of how far behind they are.

It's DFE set wording.

raisinglittlepeople12 · 14/04/2026 16:23

I found that if the child is perceived as “well behaved” then schools ignore their support needs for the most part

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