My idiot husband has severed his patella tendon playing hockey.

[MinnieMountain]

I'm just here to moan. Poor DH etc but honestly.

Clearly 46 year olds who've only played mixed hockey for the last year should not suddenly play 11 a side at a hockey tournament.

We've had to rearrange a load of stuff and I doubt he'll be able to fly to Sardinia for May half term. Grr.

Why would she be annoyed that her poor DH had been injured and may have to miss out on his holiday?

I think it’s awful that anyone would immediately think ‘poor me’ when their partner got injured.

Oh no,holiday without him, the horror. The hardship.

I’m running around after my DP at the moment, he’s broken a bone. Just raced upstairs after a call of “can you help me urgently?!” only to find he’d pressed the wrong button on his iPad and couldn’t find how to get it back to normal view. It’s going to be a looong few weeks.

I don’t think she’s annoyed he has hurt himself more the situation it puts them in, we are going on holiday tomorrow but if OH injured himself preventing it i would be annoyed that we couldn’t go, not at OH just in general xx

Look, I love DH very much and I've been nothing but sympathetic to him. I find it helps to have moan, that's all.

I've had cancer myself. If DH had moaned to others about the extra load when I did, I would completely understand. I actually messaged his closest friends asking them to support him if he needed it.

Oh OP, I can completely empathise.

DH has had to have both acl’s replaced over the years and also had other serious accidents related to his hobbies that have resulted in ambulances, hospitals and operations.

It’s so hard to be sympathetic (and you do feel sympathy because you love them) but not to also feel truly fucked off that their hobby had now turned you into a nursemaid/taxi driver/personal assistant and fucked with your holiday plans!

And thank you to those who understand.

I ruptured mine just walking across the road, my DH had to do everything obviously, not an issue.

I had to do everything when he had a triple fusion on his ankle, not an issue.

He then repaid me again during my 16 rounds chemo last year, again didn’t cause him an issue.

In sickness and in health and all that!

I get that this is a good-humoured vent @MinnieMountain .

A friend’s DH ( 58) tore his ACL a couple years ago playing football. He had the surgery, rested ----the minimum time, and started playing again although my friend suggested he wait longer. Guess what happened….

It’s frustrating that our middle-aged bodies aren’t as resilient as they used to be! I hope your DH recovers well and gives his body time to heal before playing again. Half-term will still be fun with your DD.

Ltb, you deserve better 😄

My 72 year old dad ended up in A and E two months ago because he attempted to tackle my 17 year old nephew to “show him how it’s done”. Something in the Y chromosome makes them compelled to do these things….

Sympathy. Mine decided his 40s was the best time to take up Rugby again.

Hes had head injuries, rib injuries, black eyes etc. He coulf barely put his seatbelt on yesterday. And while I sympathsise with injuries...im the one picking up the slack they cause.

And no, I dont think he shouldnt be allowed hobbies... just something less likely to leave him in agony. Like his other hobbies!

Maybe I can persuade him to switch to swimming like me after this 😆 (highly unlikely).

What a weird comment, you don’t even know him.

Most people actually like their partners and want to go with them on the holiday they had planned.

If it makes you feel better OP, many years ago a couple I knew were relocating permanently from the UK to the US with their two young children. A not insignificant logistical undertaking, as I am sure you can imagine.

At their leaving party, which I think was only a week before their departure, the DH got pissed, messed about on the kids trampoline, and broke both his legs.

I feel you OP. DH tore his ACL playing hockey about 6 weeks before I was due to give birth. I was so angry - it was my time to put my feet up and relax and instead I was helping him in and out of the shower while lugging around a bump 😫

Go without him, selfish hockey-playing numpty Wow!!! 😠 😡
I don't understand the disdain. Nobody chooses to sustain an injury like this for the fun of it. It's not as if he was careless and decided to go skiing while drunk or extreme mountain biking as a beginner, sounds like he's a regular bloke who just had an unfortunate accident playing a fairly pedestrian sport that he's familiar with.
I dont get the hate either.

Fortunately when I had a severe injury through mtb my dh was sympathetic and helped me recover. Also he didn't call me names and when I recovered encouraged me back before I lost my confidence completely.

I play underwater hockey. We have lots of retired field hockiers. Generally fewer serious injuries, but a lot of bruises to get your fix of brutality!

I fell on ice and damaged my patellar tendon during Lockdown

I struggled on and did not seek immediate medical attention, as I was able to bend my knee and walk

I limped for months and the muscles around my knee have atrophied

I can only manage low steps and stairs

You have my sympathy

My 43 year old DH will do NO excercise for months on end and then go play a full 90 minute football match - coming home surprised and moaning about pulling a hammy. Of course you’ve pulled a bloody hammy you prat! Love him dearly, but ffs, what do they expect

My Dh also discovered the hard way that if you want to start playing serious hockey again in your late 40s you need to be decently fit and work on your flexibility and strength. To be fair to him, once he recovered, he has got in really impressive shape - maybe it’s the incentive your other half needs!!

Oh my god! I do hope your dad was okay in the end but this did tickle me 🫣
and also reminded me of my grandad who I drove to Tescos and aged 87 he asked a guy getting out of the car next to us how old he thought he was, the guy said about 80ish and then my grandad started shadow boxing the guy 😂 in fairness to him he was very good humoured about it but ffs the man was insane!

He’s fine, I will say he seems to have great bone density for someone who doesn’t take care of their health at all and thinks a fry up is balanced… maybe he is onto something. Constantly refers to himself as “a young 72” so everyone knows he’s not like the other old people 😭

And If you’d found out that your husband had started a thread on a chat forum entitled “my idiot wife has been diagnosed with cancer” and then listed the ways your diagnosis inconveniences him? @MinnieMountain