To have second thoughts about leaving my cats to go on holiday ?

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We are going on holiday for two weeks in 2 months time.
I am getting really anxious about leaving them.
They will be going to my dads house (where they’ve been before )
Im going to really worry about them.
My dad turned his spare room into a cat room,he has a big cat tree ,toys and blankets etc but I still worry about them.
Im having second thoughts about going but we have paid nearly £4,000 for this holiday so it’s a lot to waste and think partner would be so mad.
Aibu ?

I have found some great local cat sitters from cat in a flat. I prefer getting my cat cared for in place so there isn't the stress of transporting him to a new environment with the risk that he could run off and get lost. He is an outdoor cat and would suffer being kept in.

My son is always worried about leaving the cat, and what really helps is we have a camera in the kitchen so we can see the cat coming and going and being fed.

This really helps put his mind at ease.

Yup. And I could’ve been “kinder” but I also hate the “be kind” movement so 😂

Honestly, people really need to get a grip. I’ve no problem telling them that it’s fucking embarrassing.

Aw, I had this last year ( first time I went away since getting my second cat).
I finally decided that if Taylor Swift can go on a world tour as a cat owner, then I had to just figure it out😂.

I’m so glad I get them used to my cat sitter- it’s been such a game changer.

You have to give it a try, otherwise the alternative is to never go away

So your daughter is your “world” but you’ll never travel together, go away for a weekend, go to the seaside for the day, visit a different town because of the cat. Who would be perfectly fine with a cat sitter coming in and feeding it.

It’s ridiculous. And so unnecessarily limiting for your daughter. It’s a cat, yet you’re limiting your actual human child because “fur baby”.

The cats won't care. They would probably rather be at home, so next time maybe arrange for someone to come to yours to feed them. If they are home and fed they will be fine. We leave ours with an automatic feeder and someone coming in once a day to give wet food and tidy up. They have a catflap and each other, though.

While I think YABU, why would you move them? We ask our neighbours to look after our cat when we go away and we look after their 3 cats and two beardies. In my experience cats prefer to stay i their own home.

I’m afraid I agree with other people. You are being unbelievably ridiculous to even consider giving up a £4000 trip because of the cats. What exactly is it that you think will happen to them?
Pets are supposed to enhance your life, not limit it to the four walls of your house.

When she goes away, my daughter has a cat sitter come in twice a day. The cat fell in love with her as she fed him Dreamies and gave him undivided attention. The cat flap remained closed (foxes around at night) but he didn't seem to mind and she sent videos of them having love-ins all over the house. What a tart. Anyway, something else to consider as cats do like familiar surroundings (though it does sound as though he'll be perfectly safe at your dad's which really is all that matters)

My daughter is 33, and just back from a holiday with her friend and her DC, they do this every year, as well as days out. She went to Disneyland Paris last year with her sister, going again in November.

I should maybe have said we don’t go on holiday together, we leave our cat for a few hours if we decide to go to the beach (live very close, can see the sea from my house)

Our cat would not be perfectly fine with a cat sitter, we’re his world too, and both of us agree that we’d never leave him with one, or go to a cattery.

I think it’s “fucking embarrassing” that you feel entitled to be so unkind to someone on the internet. And I’ve no problem with telling you that.
Op, I get why you are worried, but they’ll be fine. I don’t like leaving my animals either but I do and when I come back, they are pleased to see me but not that bothered! Go and enjoy yourself.

@Whoops75 my kids love a cat tree too 😅

Me too.

OP just get a cat sitter.

Well according to pp their cat won’t be fine so it’s a bit fucking embarrassing that you feel entitled to tell them it will. How very high and mighty of you 🤣

Also transpires the DD is 33. “We are his world too” though. Really? It’s a bloody cat ffs.

Your dad sounds like he would be a brilliant pet sitter. He is familiar with the cat and has created a cat friendly space.

Could you take the cat over for visits between now and your holiday to let it play in that room? You could bring a blanket or bed from your house and feeding bowls so these are kept the same.

You don’t live in our house, you don’t know me or my daughter, you don’t see the interaction between us and our cat.

You don’t see how he follows us around the house all day, sits on our laps, sleeps under the duvet with me every night, the utterly rapturous welcome we get if we have been out for a few hours.

He’s not just a “bloody cat”

That is offensive, but I actually don’t care what you think, we’re very happy with our lives and how we both adore our cat.

I agree 👏🏻

Did you post last year too? Your dad was going to have cat upstairs in a bedroom dog downstairs?

even if it’s not you your dads got it all organised, cars will be fine .

I have 2 rescues since kittens, I’ve never left them alone yet as still terrified of most things. And I don’t have any family or friends to help. I’d love to have someone like your dad helping me out x