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So angry with myself.

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Abcdgse · 09/04/2026 16:58

I feel so angry with myself. Since November I have lost 4 stone. But I just went and stuffed my face with. 3 packets of crisps, a mars bar, a mini cake, an iced doughnut. All within 2hrs

I don't know why i done it i didn't even enjoy it.

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Clockinginat2pm · 11/04/2026 08:45

So you have lost 4 stone which is bloody fantastic.
yet the seemingly crushing guilt and anger of one action completely overshadows the existing evidence of such outstanding achievement?

It never ends or goes away does it. It’s just shit OP, I completely get where you are coming from with the way you are feeling, as someone who struggles with weight.
There’s no perspective at all is there, it’s as simple as “I’ve failed, I’m crap, I’ve ruined it all”.

My advice, which is the best advice I ever got is to Chuck it in the fuck it bucket and crack on… it’ll be reet.

rainbowunicorn · 11/04/2026 09:17

Abcdgse · 11/04/2026 08:27

I have put on 2 pounds I'm so angry with myself. Its also the fact I didn't even enjoy it but still carried on. Thats just greed most people would say well them crisps were boring and stop. But no not me I have another packet then another...

You absolutely have not put on 2lbs of fat from what you ate the other day. That is biologically impossible. You would have to have eaten 7000 calories over and above your normal maintenence amount to do that. What you ate was kess than 1500. You may have some retained water, nothing more. Just eat sensibly and drink lots of water and it will shift over a few days. 2lb is within the normal range of fluctuations that anyone will have anyway so really isnt anything to be concerned over. Weight will fluctuate due to time of the month, fluid intake, exercise, eating salty food, wating processed carbs and a thousand other reasons.

socialsbester · 11/04/2026 09:19

Don’t be angry at yourself! Feeling anger, shame, regret is all part of the endless mental cycle of obesity. Instead congratulate yourself at having lost FOUR STONE (an amazing achievement) and then dust yourself off and think ‘tomorrow will be a better day’. And it will!!

Abcdgse · 11/04/2026 09:40

socialsbester · 11/04/2026 09:19

Don’t be angry at yourself! Feeling anger, shame, regret is all part of the endless mental cycle of obesity. Instead congratulate yourself at having lost FOUR STONE (an amazing achievement) and then dust yourself off and think ‘tomorrow will be a better day’. And it will!!

The 4 stone has been done now though. Im meant to be loosing the next chunk of weight. Not putting it on.

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socialsbester · 11/04/2026 10:56

Abcdgse · 11/04/2026 09:40

The 4 stone has been done now though. Im meant to be loosing the next chunk of weight. Not putting it on.

Still think you’ve done brilliantly and should be congratulated for what you’ve achieved so far. 🎉🎉

I’ve lost 3.5 stone in the last year but over Easter I ate way too much and actually had a ‘blow out’ like you, wondering what on earth I was doing. Like you, didn’t really enjoy it much either - it was just mindless eating. But I knew that I had to quickly forgive myself, see it as a blip and move on. A shame/regret spiral just causes me to eat more. I’m a human who struggles with my weight my approach to food - a lot of the time these days I get things right but sometimes I don’t.

Namingbaba · 11/04/2026 10:59

Be easier on yourself that’s a great achievement. The problem many have when they mess up is they just feel a failure and carry on with overeating.

You don’t get fat from eating a chocolate bar anymore than you get thin from eating a salad. It’s continuous behaviour that matters.

Dermatologically · 11/04/2026 11:03

That's a lot of weight in a short space of time. Instead of beating yourself up, ask yourself if you're being too restrictive? Might you be better off slowing down the weight loss and eating a bit more so you don't get the urge to binge? Binging is usually a sign you aren't allowing yourself enough food or enough of the right type of food.

Abcdgse · 11/04/2026 12:44

socialsbester · 11/04/2026 10:56

Still think you’ve done brilliantly and should be congratulated for what you’ve achieved so far. 🎉🎉

I’ve lost 3.5 stone in the last year but over Easter I ate way too much and actually had a ‘blow out’ like you, wondering what on earth I was doing. Like you, didn’t really enjoy it much either - it was just mindless eating. But I knew that I had to quickly forgive myself, see it as a blip and move on. A shame/regret spiral just causes me to eat more. I’m a human who struggles with my weight my approach to food - a lot of the time these days I get things right but sometimes I don’t.

I just don't understand why I kept going . Like when I wasn't enjoying it why didn't I just stop. I got nothing from it but carried on. Im not asking an actual question. Just questioning myself.

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suki1964 · 12/04/2026 23:09

Abcdgse · 11/04/2026 12:44

I just don't understand why I kept going . Like when I wasn't enjoying it why didn't I just stop. I got nothing from it but carried on. Im not asking an actual question. Just questioning myself.

So you did four stone, you wanted a reward, we all do

Four stone is totally magical. AND YOU DID IT You have to be somewhere feeling so proud of yourself

I have to watch my weight carefully since my lost so I dont gain and it is ruddy hard at times. Now and then I do a pig out , mines crisp butties - white bread and butter and a huge packet of crisps , and I will eat four slices of bread, with thick thick butter and the crisps, maybe some ham and cheese and mustard and coleslaw , and whilst I enjoy the first - the second Im like what the hell am I doing? Its just the first, whilst might be 70% of the days calories, won't fill me and the butter and soft bread, just wants me eating more

So the crips butties are held off, for weeks, and then I crack and go all in. But what I do different to you, is I dont beat myself up. It happens, it hasn't broken my "diet" forever, it was one time, and I go straight back on track

Stop beating yourself up - that's when the damage starts

Abcdgse · 13/04/2026 00:06

suki1964 · 12/04/2026 23:09

So you did four stone, you wanted a reward, we all do

Four stone is totally magical. AND YOU DID IT You have to be somewhere feeling so proud of yourself

I have to watch my weight carefully since my lost so I dont gain and it is ruddy hard at times. Now and then I do a pig out , mines crisp butties - white bread and butter and a huge packet of crisps , and I will eat four slices of bread, with thick thick butter and the crisps, maybe some ham and cheese and mustard and coleslaw , and whilst I enjoy the first - the second Im like what the hell am I doing? Its just the first, whilst might be 70% of the days calories, won't fill me and the butter and soft bread, just wants me eating more

So the crips butties are held off, for weeks, and then I crack and go all in. But what I do different to you, is I dont beat myself up. It happens, it hasn't broken my "diet" forever, it was one time, and I go straight back on track

Stop beating yourself up - that's when the damage starts

Logically I know things won't always be perfect. And I would get it if what i ate taste super delicious but it didn't and I still kept going . It was pointless.

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